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Without being needy
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
how do you handle plates
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Peaks&Valleys
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Strange question. One of the reasons for spinning plates is to keep you from being needy. Once they get spinning, it's the women who seem to become needy.
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Maybe lately ive been spinning quality plates. Perceived quality...fvck...
Peaks&Valleys
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Well, if you recognize yourself getting needy then take a step back, put away the phone, and go get another plate.
If you're "spinning" a few chicks that are nothing more than fvck buddies or booty calls then, yeah, it can be difficult to keep from getting needy. In this case, you'll need to find a chick that you actually do $hit with - watch netflix, bring to parties, get something to eat with, etc.
You 'need' to find someone who is more than just a peace of a$$.
If you're "spinning" a few chicks that are nothing more than fvck buddies or booty calls then, yeah, it can be difficult to keep from getting needy. In this case, you'll need to find a chick that you actually do $hit with - watch netflix, bring to parties, get something to eat with, etc.
You 'need' to find someone who is more than just a peace of a$$.
RangerMIke
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This. Never get to the point where you like one more than the others. Also if you ever get to the point where you are jealous that one is seeing other dudes, then it's time to spend less time with her, because you will start to act like a needy b!itch.Peaks&Valleys said:
You have to not care that women you are dating are fvcking other guys... if you can't do this, then you can not spin plates. Because if it's okay for you to fvck other women, then you have to be okay with her doing the same.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.