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Without being needy
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
how do you handle plates
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Peaks&Valleys
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Strange question. One of the reasons for spinning plates is to keep you from being needy. Once they get spinning, it's the women who seem to become needy.
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Maybe lately ive been spinning quality plates. Perceived quality...fvck...
Peaks&Valleys
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Well, if you recognize yourself getting needy then take a step back, put away the phone, and go get another plate.
If you're "spinning" a few chicks that are nothing more than fvck buddies or booty calls then, yeah, it can be difficult to keep from getting needy. In this case, you'll need to find a chick that you actually do $hit with - watch netflix, bring to parties, get something to eat with, etc.
You 'need' to find someone who is more than just a peace of a$$.
If you're "spinning" a few chicks that are nothing more than fvck buddies or booty calls then, yeah, it can be difficult to keep from getting needy. In this case, you'll need to find a chick that you actually do $hit with - watch netflix, bring to parties, get something to eat with, etc.
You 'need' to find someone who is more than just a peace of a$$.
RangerMIke
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This. Never get to the point where you like one more than the others. Also if you ever get to the point where you are jealous that one is seeing other dudes, then it's time to spend less time with her, because you will start to act like a needy b!itch.Peaks&Valleys said:
You have to not care that women you are dating are fvcking other guys... if you can't do this, then you can not spin plates. Because if it's okay for you to fvck other women, then you have to be okay with her doing the same.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.