"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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how do you get rid of anxiety?

johnny_depp

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Well before you guys start saying go to the doctor and take pills. I dont want to take fuking pills I just if anything want to take natural shyt. This anxiety stuff is really starting to mess up my game. so if anyone here has anxiety what is some things you can do to help yourself out? I actually love talking with people but sometimes I get really fuking paraniod and shyt so please someone help me out. I need it bad.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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thefonz

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I used to be there, all I can say is that the more you experience and the more you get out there the easier it gets. I had really really bad social anxiety when I was 18-20 but the older I get the more I can deal with those feelings that crop up. You get older and find yourself in the same situations and you slowly begin to release, "what am I worried about, even if I do get nervous no one really cares." I know right now you don't believe that but it's true, you just got to wait it out and whatever you do don't isolate yourself. For now, the 2 things you must focus on are stopping the negative thought patterns in your head and recognize your perfectionistic beliefs as they pop up.

Check out the book "Dying of Embarrasment", this book helped me out a ton and has all the advice about anxiety you'll ever need to get better.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Read the work of Lucinda Basset.
 

Soupar

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quit *****ing and grow some balls
 
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