B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
being walked all over by some fvcking cvnt? I cannot sleep over it.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How do you get over...
- Thread starter B0redandl0nely
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
The date is scheduled for tonight at 10:15 but she will flake and then I will put her in her place.
lamath
Master Don Juan
You are waiting for her tonflake to put her in her place?
How are you gonna do it?
Tbh if in your place i would.not schedule a date with a women i know is gonna flake.
I would just next nothing more nothing less
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Well I'm an unassertive idiot so I'll never get anywhere or learn my lesson. I also need psychiatric help because my thoughts are racing. I'm yearning for sex with a woman yet I hate women because they won't give it to me.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I can't sleep, my head hurts, my heart is pounding, I can't concentrate on my studies, I'm gonna get rejected and I won't be able to handle it. I'm a mess. I'm gonna die
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I don't know why I let her change the date from a dinner date to a movie date. She must think I have no balls. Well she's right. I don't. That's why I'm gonna look at porn for the rest of my life and not gonna get disrespected by another woman ever again. I'm very vulnerable because I'm a coward. Women will always degrade me and disrespect me.
Serenity
Moderator
With such negative thoughts it's only going to stay that way. Nobody other than you have the power to change your mind, so on one side if you're determined that you'll fail then so it will be, on the other side you have complete power to turn that around.
Not getting women isn't something to commit suicide over. If you get women you'll wonder why they ever mattered so much, because you'll realize it's not as fantastic as you imagine now.
# I'm yearning for sex with a woman yet I hate women because they won't give it to me.
That's a man talking
When I use the (zero f given mindset), women are more interested.
Also when your b@ll's are this swollen, and physically start to pressure your brain, you smell distressed, and it's a turn off for women.
Go for a h@ppy end massage and release some of these tensions
That's a man talking
When I use the (zero f given mindset), women are more interested.
Also when your b@ll's are this swollen, and physically start to pressure your brain, you smell distressed, and it's a turn off for women.
Go for a h@ppy end massage and release some of these tensions
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
deaderinred
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Does this guy want sympathy or something? Stop being a negative loser and feeling sorry for yourself. Its pathetic.
Some men are born with low to almost non existent EQ, those you call socially awkward.
This doesn't make them pathetic.
This makes them feel frustrated because they can't process emotions or social cues like you do.
Let's just say they're slower in that department but highly efficient in other areas.
Think Einstein, only communicated when he's 4 or 5, socially awkward but he could come up with the theory of general relativity a 100 odd years ago - just imagine what his mind sees that others can't possibly imagine.
But these people were naturally born with low EQ to compensate for their intellectual prowess.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
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AJ84
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Wow, a girl suggests going to a movie instead of the original plan and OP goes from hating women to wanting to kill himself to putting her in her place to calling her a c**t, all before the actual date.
She has no idea of this either and if she did, she would bail faster than the speed of light, rightfully so. I mean if someone has that kind of extreme reaction over a change in venue, what happens when she has to cancel a date or leave a date early because something comes up?
F**k that.
She has no idea of this either and if she did, she would bail faster than the speed of light, rightfully so. I mean if someone has that kind of extreme reaction over a change in venue, what happens when she has to cancel a date or leave a date early because something comes up?
F**k that.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
sazc
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I'm willing to bet anxiety is something he deals with daily, he already said he was autistic.
The downward spiral just witnessed seems extreme to the observer but is probably just who he is. No amount of "hey buddy, develop an IDGAF mindset" will probably work here.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Feminism attention *****d 90% of non red pill mens dreams, passions and hope...
Those negative thoughts is the downfall of everything. You see things happening that isn’t even there yet. When you become positive and believe in yourself your confidence will skyrocket and think you can win at anything it shows to women. Stay calm and relaxed. Anyone know if the date happened?? In a different time zone haha.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Not yet
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I shouldn't have let her change the venue. I should have said "Let's stick with my idea so we could talk more and get to know each other better" or something along those lines. But I'm unassertive and therefore should not go out with women because they will walk all over me like this one is. My mother is unassertive and so are her brothers. I inherited it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.