"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How do you get out there?

sociallyanxious

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I have been single for about 10 months and now I am ready to get out there and get another girl. I am open to anything whether its friends with benefits, a girl friend, or a one nighter(never done it).

The problem is that I really don't know how to go about doing it. I don't know how to put myself "out there". All the women I have been in any non friendly relationship with I have met at a social place of some sort or work. I have two really good friends but they both have kids and girlfriends and the chances of us going out with the intent of me meeting someone are basically null.

My choices are to either go out by myself or try online dating. I work full time and I am currently attending school so my time is somewhat slim, but I will make time. I have considered tinder or some other dating app or website, but I feel very funny doing it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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bmp2cpm

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Avoid all things online as it's a wasteland out there.

Unless school is all male, I would look at all the school organizations and clubs.

Look for clubs women will tend to gravitate to, like environmental clubs or local green peace chapter. Maybe see if you can help out in a theater production? Think where you wouldn't typically be and women will probably be there.
 

sociallyanxious

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Tictac said:
If you are busy working and going to school, that means you are in places where women are doesn't it?
sort of. There are a handful on women in engineering and the ones that are I am not attracted to. I would rather not date a co worker, I have in the past and it proved to be drama.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Young OG

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Online dating is a horrible. Stay away from it. It's filled with women that are sluts or have way to high of expectations. Plus the women to guy ratio is pretty bad. Try to find some friends that are single. Make some new ones or look up some old ones if you have too. I recently have been getting back in the game and also do not have many single friends. As my confidence and balls continue to grow to where they once were, I might even start showing up to bars around 1 am alone to try to get a one night stand. That's always an option for you.
 
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