"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How do you get out there?

sociallyanxious

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I have been single for about 10 months and now I am ready to get out there and get another girl. I am open to anything whether its friends with benefits, a girl friend, or a one nighter(never done it).

The problem is that I really don't know how to go about doing it. I don't know how to put myself "out there". All the women I have been in any non friendly relationship with I have met at a social place of some sort or work. I have two really good friends but they both have kids and girlfriends and the chances of us going out with the intent of me meeting someone are basically null.

My choices are to either go out by myself or try online dating. I work full time and I am currently attending school so my time is somewhat slim, but I will make time. I have considered tinder or some other dating app or website, but I feel very funny doing it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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bmp2cpm

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Avoid all things online as it's a wasteland out there.

Unless school is all male, I would look at all the school organizations and clubs.

Look for clubs women will tend to gravitate to, like environmental clubs or local green peace chapter. Maybe see if you can help out in a theater production? Think where you wouldn't typically be and women will probably be there.
 

sociallyanxious

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Tictac said:
If you are busy working and going to school, that means you are in places where women are doesn't it?
sort of. There are a handful on women in engineering and the ones that are I am not attracted to. I would rather not date a co worker, I have in the past and it proved to be drama.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Young OG

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Online dating is a horrible. Stay away from it. It's filled with women that are sluts or have way to high of expectations. Plus the women to guy ratio is pretty bad. Try to find some friends that are single. Make some new ones or look up some old ones if you have too. I recently have been getting back in the game and also do not have many single friends. As my confidence and balls continue to grow to where they once were, I might even start showing up to bars around 1 am alone to try to get a one night stand. That's always an option for you.
 
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