"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How do you GENERALLY handle a crying girl?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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1. If it has to do with you, then think about what has happened, and listen the underlying message. Women never tell you what they are actually upset about because they really don't understand. For example, if she is crying because you left town for the weekend, she is likely really crying because she is not feeling your love... Determine if you did something wrong, and fix the issue or put her in her place
2. If it doesn't have to do with you, then just listen. Don't offer a solution unless she asks. Usually she is just venting and just wants someone to pour that crap out on...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Either just hold her and say nothing or ask her what it's about it and let her vent.
1) Bail her out.
2) Pull out and go down on her for a few more minutes.
3) Get more Vaseline.
4) Have Rocco Siffredi spit in her as-s.
5) To keep it even, only punch her with the left fist.
6) Stop sleeping with her sister.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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If she's crying because she's mad at you or is trying to manipulate you, ignore the crying and continue on as if there are no tears falling from her eyes.
QuadDeuces
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Just like what you would do with a crying child who's been denied to have a candy bar. They will manipulate you just like a child if you start giving it too much attention.
You are the male, you should be the emotionally stable rock she looks up to, once you start wallowing with her youre in her frame. And a females frame is a rabbit hole you don't want to get lost in.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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I do think that females will try to manipulate men with "feelings". But I also think that men kneejerk to this idea that she is trying to control or manipulate using feelings because HE is fearful of getting closer/intimate with his female.
That said, try to do a really good job at identifying the difference between real feelings and needs, and emotions that are truly manipulative. You do want to be there for a female you care about. If you really think she's trying to control or manipulate, be a man and kick her magnolias a$$ to the curb.