Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How do you GENERALLY handle a crying girl?

How do you GENERALLY handle a crying girl?

  • Comfort

    Votes: 1 5.6%
  • Ignore

    Votes: 4 22.2%
  • Change the subject

    Votes: 1 5.6%
  • Sexual contact

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Reprimand

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Too situational to generalize

    Votes: 12 66.7%

  • Total voters
    18

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Depends on the situation.
 

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Depends on the context of the situation. But I usually just look at them like -____- and I'm like "omg why are you crying... please stop"... so I pretty much down play it because a lot of times its fake af and just to get you to feel bad and forget about something. Or to turn you into a sympathetic wuss
 

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Just listen... really all you can do... don't try to fix it (as is the manly way)... just let her talk and listen. It usually falls under 1 of 2 things...

1. If it has to do with you, then think about what has happened, and listen the underlying message. Women never tell you what they are actually upset about because they really don't understand. For example, if she is crying because you left town for the weekend, she is likely really crying because she is not feeling your love... Determine if you did something wrong, and fix the issue or put her in her place

2. If it doesn't have to do with you, then just listen. Don't offer a solution unless she asks. Usually she is just venting and just wants someone to pour that crap out on...
 
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Why is she crying?

She is hurt? Legit reason?
She is acting out. Wanting her way?
She is emotional. Legit reason.
She is emotional. Non legit reason.

Why is she crying?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just listen... really all you can do... don't try to fix it (as is the manly way)... just let her talk and listen

If there is one thing I learned from my failed marriage is that sometimes they just want to be heard.

If it has to do with you, then think about what has happened, and listen the underlying message. Women never tell you what they are actually upset about because they really don't understand. If she is crying because you left town for the weekend, she is likely really crying because she is not feeling your love...

If it doesn't have to do with you, then just listen. Don't offer a solution unless she asks. Usually she is just venting and just wants someone to pour that crap out on...
100%

Either just hold her and say nothing or ask her what it's about it and let her vent.
 

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If it's bs, I just ignore
If it's authentic, I listen and hug if needed... usually sex helps some ;)
 

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We can have fun with this one.

1) Bail her out.
2) Pull out and go down on her for a few more minutes.
3) Get more Vaseline.
4) Have Rocco Siffredi spit in her as-s.
5) To keep it even, only punch her with the left fist.
6) Stop sleeping with her sister.

...
 

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Humour.... and confort....

All the girls have known who cried was because someone died.

Or their relationship died.

Other than that... give her your shoulder
 

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If I'm crying, a designer purse will fix it, no matter what it is

(sarcasm)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It's all just manipulation.
 

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If she had a bad day, got some bad news or something bad happened to her, just listen and let her bawl on you.

If she's crying because she's mad at you or is trying to manipulate you, ignore the crying and continue on as if there are no tears falling from her eyes.
 

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You ignore and continue with what you are doing.
Just like what you would do with a crying child who's been denied to have a candy bar. They will manipulate you just like a child if you start giving it too much attention.
You are the male, you should be the emotionally stable rock she looks up to, once you start wallowing with her youre in her frame. And a females frame is a rabbit hole you don't want to get lost in.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Be careful. When I am having REAL feelings surrounding sunshine that had occured in my relationship, and I express them and the reasons I get is "you're not going to control/manipulate me with your emotions" I take it as a very blunt statement that he doesn't care about me or me getting emotionally okay with the relationship. When this occurs, because it has, I walk. I walk because I am looking for someone who wants to nurture something with me and someone who views my feelings as a control and manipulation tactic is sunshine with past baggage that had nothing to do with me.

I do think that females will try to manipulate men with "feelings". But I also think that men kneejerk to this idea that she is trying to control or manipulate using feelings because HE is fearful of getting closer/intimate with his female.

That said, try to do a really good job at identifying the difference between real feelings and needs, and emotions that are truly manipulative. You do want to be there for a female you care about. If you really think she's trying to control or manipulate, be a man and kick her magnolias a$$ to the curb.
 
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