"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How do you GENERALLY handle a crying girl?
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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1. If it has to do with you, then think about what has happened, and listen the underlying message. Women never tell you what they are actually upset about because they really don't understand. For example, if she is crying because you left town for the weekend, she is likely really crying because she is not feeling your love... Determine if you did something wrong, and fix the issue or put her in her place
2. If it doesn't have to do with you, then just listen. Don't offer a solution unless she asks. Usually she is just venting and just wants someone to pour that crap out on...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Either just hold her and say nothing or ask her what it's about it and let her vent.
1) Bail her out.
2) Pull out and go down on her for a few more minutes.
3) Get more Vaseline.
4) Have Rocco Siffredi spit in her as-s.
5) To keep it even, only punch her with the left fist.
6) Stop sleeping with her sister.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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If she's crying because she's mad at you or is trying to manipulate you, ignore the crying and continue on as if there are no tears falling from her eyes.
QuadDeuces
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Just like what you would do with a crying child who's been denied to have a candy bar. They will manipulate you just like a child if you start giving it too much attention.
You are the male, you should be the emotionally stable rock she looks up to, once you start wallowing with her youre in her frame. And a females frame is a rabbit hole you don't want to get lost in.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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I do think that females will try to manipulate men with "feelings". But I also think that men kneejerk to this idea that she is trying to control or manipulate using feelings because HE is fearful of getting closer/intimate with his female.
That said, try to do a really good job at identifying the difference between real feelings and needs, and emotions that are truly manipulative. You do want to be there for a female you care about. If you really think she's trying to control or manipulate, be a man and kick her magnolias a$$ to the curb.