parkthebus
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 6, 2015
- Messages
- 500
- Reaction score
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- Age
- 39
Personally, I quite enjoy it if I'm really horny and wanting intense sex.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This guy is right. You can't just going giving them out. Also a woman into "dominance" if that is her viewpoint she ascribes to you should do it on a very limited basis.Depends if she's earned it. Or if it just happens - in the moment. Overall though, IMO, licking her snatch can be considered submissive: aiming to please. And therefore have the reverse effects of what was intended.
Her viewpoint?This guy is right. You can't just going giving them out. Also a woman into "dominance" if that is her viewpoint she ascribes to you should do it on a very limited basis.
What if it's just when a guy previous to you had a cold or the flu? And she didn't wash good?Hopefully not when she has the flu
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You think too much.What if it's just when a guy previous to you had a cold or the flu? And she didn't wash good?
Depends if she's earned it. Or if it just happens - in the moment. Overall though, IMO, licking her snatch can be considered submissive: aiming to please. And therefore have the reverse effects of what was intended.
So far no baby has left a juicy wet poo in my mouthYeah...it's the rimming part I was referring to, with the flu. A mouthful of juicy wet poo is not a good thing.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.