"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you feel about having a girlfriend but still hooking up with other girls?

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I've got a solid, its nice. But I do get curious sometimes and don't tell girls about her, so I can experience some new stuff. Only cheated twice in total, 1 kiss, two handjob, nothing major. I sleep fine at night too. She knows the girls, but has no clue. Would like to keep her away from any girls I do this with though.

Is this "wrong"? She doesnt cheat, but we arent engaged or anything...Im just living life...you only get to do that once right?

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Sure.

Morally its wrong and you risk the chance of losing your girlfriend if she finds out which she very well could.

Why build an emotional attachment with someone only to self endanger it?

Why not just live Leykis 101 and avoid relationships and just hook up with chicks and have short flings??

Its a lot less hassle with pretty much zero emotional baggage.
 
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KontrollerX said:
Sure.

Morally its wrong and you risk the chance of losing your girlfriend if she finds out which she very well could.

Why build an emotional attachment with someone only to self endanger it?

Why not just live Leykis 101 and avoid relationships and just hook up with chicks and have short flings??

Its a lot less hassle with pretty much zero emotional baggage.
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I was living Leykis 101 very successfully until I fell for someone. Suddenly I was beauty, trustworthiness, good-behaving-christian all in this one girl and I fell for her, while still maintaining my old habits of Leykis 101...

I guess I never broke the habit so I'm emotionally attached while still physically having fun...
 
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Is this "wrong"? She doesnt cheat, but we arent engaged or anything...Im just living life...you only get to do that once right?
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I agree with Kontroller that it's morally wrong, and I don't see the point in having her as your girlfriend if you're gonna fuk a bunch of girls on the side. Very lame. Also, if you're gonna do this kind of low integrity stuff, then to keep it fair you have to be cool with her doing it too.
 
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guywhoneedshelp said:
I've got a solid, its nice. But I do get curious sometimes and don't tell girls about her, so I can experience some new stuff. Only cheated twice in total, 1 kiss, two handjob, nothing major. I sleep fine at night too. She knows the girls, but has no clue. Would like to keep her away from any girls I do this with though.

Is this "wrong"? She doesnt cheat, but we arent engaged or anything...Im just living life...you only get to do that once right?

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you obviously arent ready for a commited relationship. dump the chick and experience all the "new stuff" you want.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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when i was hooking up with other girls, i had this guilt at first. but as i did it with more women the guilt went away and soon after my girl found out and we broke up. did i regret hooking up with those chicks? not really. its a tough question but if you really care for the girlfriend then i dont recommend it. its not good for you or her.
 
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I would say there is some underlying insecurity here if you need to have a GF but you don't really want to commit to her. It suggests that you have a constant need for female validation. discuss.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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guywhoneedshelp said:
I was living Leykis 101 very successfully until I fell for someone. Suddenly I was beauty, trustworthiness, good-behaving-christian all in this one girl and I fell for her, while still maintaining my old habits of Leykis 101...

I guess I never broke the habit so I'm emotionally attached while still physically having fun...
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You sound like what we call...a pvssy.

Why do you even have a girlfriend? Really? Why? What do you need this girl friend for? You say you were getting laid, but "Suddenly" you fell under the spell of the woman. Sounds like you're not being honest with us, nor yourself.

You're NOT monogamous, but in a relationship. Why are you even bothering? There is no point to it, if you're not going to be honest with her.

Grow a pair and make a choice.
 
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