"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How do you feel about having a girlfriend but still hooking up with other girls?

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guywhoneedshelp

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I've got a solid, its nice. But I do get curious sometimes and don't tell girls about her, so I can experience some new stuff. Only cheated twice in total, 1 kiss, two handjob, nothing major. I sleep fine at night too. She knows the girls, but has no clue. Would like to keep her away from any girls I do this with though.

Is this "wrong"? She doesnt cheat, but we arent engaged or anything...Im just living life...you only get to do that once right?

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sure.

Morally its wrong and you risk the chance of losing your girlfriend if she finds out which she very well could.

Why build an emotional attachment with someone only to self endanger it?

Why not just live Leykis 101 and avoid relationships and just hook up with chicks and have short flings??

Its a lot less hassle with pretty much zero emotional baggage.
 
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KontrollerX said:
Sure.

Morally its wrong and you risk the chance of losing your girlfriend if she finds out which she very well could.

Why build an emotional attachment with someone only to self endanger it?

Why not just live Leykis 101 and avoid relationships and just hook up with chicks and have short flings??

Its a lot less hassle with pretty much zero emotional baggage.
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I was living Leykis 101 very successfully until I fell for someone. Suddenly I was beauty, trustworthiness, good-behaving-christian all in this one girl and I fell for her, while still maintaining my old habits of Leykis 101...

I guess I never broke the habit so I'm emotionally attached while still physically having fun...
 
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Is this "wrong"? She doesnt cheat, but we arent engaged or anything...Im just living life...you only get to do that once right?
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I agree with Kontroller that it's morally wrong, and I don't see the point in having her as your girlfriend if you're gonna fuk a bunch of girls on the side. Very lame. Also, if you're gonna do this kind of low integrity stuff, then to keep it fair you have to be cool with her doing it too.
 
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guywhoneedshelp said:
I've got a solid, its nice. But I do get curious sometimes and don't tell girls about her, so I can experience some new stuff. Only cheated twice in total, 1 kiss, two handjob, nothing major. I sleep fine at night too. She knows the girls, but has no clue. Would like to keep her away from any girls I do this with though.

Is this "wrong"? She doesnt cheat, but we arent engaged or anything...Im just living life...you only get to do that once right?

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you obviously arent ready for a commited relationship. dump the chick and experience all the "new stuff" you want.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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when i was hooking up with other girls, i had this guilt at first. but as i did it with more women the guilt went away and soon after my girl found out and we broke up. did i regret hooking up with those chicks? not really. its a tough question but if you really care for the girlfriend then i dont recommend it. its not good for you or her.
 
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I would say there is some underlying insecurity here if you need to have a GF but you don't really want to commit to her. It suggests that you have a constant need for female validation. discuss.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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guywhoneedshelp said:
I was living Leykis 101 very successfully until I fell for someone. Suddenly I was beauty, trustworthiness, good-behaving-christian all in this one girl and I fell for her, while still maintaining my old habits of Leykis 101...

I guess I never broke the habit so I'm emotionally attached while still physically having fun...
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You sound like what we call...a pvssy.

Why do you even have a girlfriend? Really? Why? What do you need this girl friend for? You say you were getting laid, but "Suddenly" you fell under the spell of the woman. Sounds like you're not being honest with us, nor yourself.

You're NOT monogamous, but in a relationship. Why are you even bothering? There is no point to it, if you're not going to be honest with her.

Grow a pair and make a choice.
 
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