"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how do you display sympathy?

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i know when a gf is crying and what not just be a listening rock and dont try to "fix things"

does anyone else have further advice ?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well I don't pull out at first but if it is really hurting her because of the size then you might want to pull it out (sympathy part). Don't try to fix things by putting a band-aid down there even if she's bleeding.

A good tip is to cuddle a little with her afterwards so she do not get afraid of you and do not dare to try it again. Making her feel comfortable usually makes it easier if you are well endowed like me.
 
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depends on what made her cry-If I just chewed her azz,let her cry. If it's something trivial, I'd let her know it was overdone. ONLY if it was a serious matter would I hold her and actually just BE
 
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sodbuster said:
depends on what made her cry-If I just chewed her azz,let her cry. If it's something trivial, I'd let her know it was overdone. ONLY if it was a serious matter would I hold her and actually just BE
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Great point. If you are in the right, just let her cry. Don't let her use tears as a weapon.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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