How do you deal with an argument about you not committing enough?

[CollegeMan22]

This has happened to me two times. Girls that I am banging get mad at me that I never “spend time with them”. They ask me to text more often, or quicker. Or they ask me to eat lunch with them more, or go on walks more. Instead of just meeting and banging.

I don’t know how to best deal with this. I don’t want to become beta so I almost never compromise. I NEVER try to appease her if this happens. Generally I do the agree and amplify, “Oh yes let’s see each other every second, I’m so excited”. I also try to say as little as possible and just hold eye contact with them. But a lot of the times they are too serious for this to work.

Guys who have dealt with this, what is the proper response? FYI, I got a girl I’ve been seeing for 5 months who’s saying this.

 

[Billtx49]

No girl wants to feel like she’s only being used for the sex. An occasional lunch or walk doesn’t take much time or effort if you want to keep her around …
At 5 months she’s probably in lets get serious mode now.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

You can compromise some of your time without compromising your vibe.

 

[Stanley]

Don't compromise.

If they want commitment and you don't just let em drop. If you're spinning then you'll find a new girl anyways. At 5 months and at your age that is relationship territory for most girls. I make it clear to a girl I am seeing "what this is" and if they want something more I let em go. They often find their way back anyways...

 

[Murk]

Rotate them out, can’t string them along forever.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This has happened to me two times. Girls that I am banging get mad at me that I never “spend time with them”. They ask me to text more often, or quicker. Or they ask me to eat lunch with them more, or go on walks more. Instead of just meeting and banging.

I don’t know how to best deal with this. I don’t want to become beta so I almost never compromise. I NEVER try to appease her if this happens. Generally I do the agree and amplify, “Oh yes let’s see each other every second, I’m so excited”. I also try to say as little as possible and just hold eye contact with them. But a lot of the times they are too serious for this to work.

Guys who have dealt with this, what is the proper response? FYI, I got a girl I’ve been seeing for 5 months who’s saying this.

They are telling you to stop making them feel like a wh0re. No woman wants to think all she is is a warm hole for you to stick your d!ck in.

You have to understand that this type of thing is always temporary. A woman will only stay with a man for so long without any sort of commitment. 3-4 months is probably average. You are on borrowed time at 5 months.

The reason why you spin plates and build a rotation is because you expect women to drop out along the way and you have to replace them. Worst case scenario is when they all drop out at once.

 

[Gamisch]

Same thing that makes them cry makes them stay..

I agree with the post above this one tho. Women been serial dating and piled up tons of bad experiences. Once we as men hit it the urge to hunt disappears and women will notice. Soon as they notice they'll fear you are yet another player using them as a wh0res.

I believe @Murk recently said something like; if age ain't complaining you're diong it wrong. Remember that when you feel under pressure. Besides that , don't forget to actually learn the hidden lessons. A little more effort will go a long way. Just text them a little bit more...

 

[RazorRambo24]

You're doing what you're supposed to if you want to plate them. The idea is you start off and keep things strictly sex, and then you start inviting them to **** like running errands with you, and doing little **** like that.. and eventually giving them more of your time.

Now how I kept the balancing act going is I only see my plates once a week respectively. and I kept it like this for a long while now. Its the best way imo

 

[HaleyBaron]

This has happened to me two times. Girls that I am banging get mad at me that I never “spend time with them”. They ask me to text more often, or quicker. Or they ask me to eat lunch with them more, or go on walks more. Instead of just meeting and banging.

I don’t know how to best deal with this. I don’t want to become beta so I almost never compromise. I NEVER try to appease her if this happens. Generally I do the agree and amplify, “Oh yes let’s see each other every second, I’m so excited”. I also try to say as little as possible and just hold eye contact with them. But a lot of the times they are too serious for this to work.

Guys who have dealt with this, what is the proper response? FYI, I got a girl I’ve been seeing for 5 months who’s saying this.

Ignore what they say, wait for the "Come f*ck me" text, repeat.

 

[Alvafe]

I would take a piss and say, "so tell me why I would commit more?"

because serious most don't bring anything other then a ***** and that there is thousands out there

 

[SW15]

Iron Rule of Tomassi #1

Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.

With that said, there comes a point where a woman won't wait around forever. You have to lead the relationship, recognize her level of value, and lead the relationship forward. Is your current 5 month woman worthy of exclusivity? You don't have to be with her forever but her asking for exclusivity now is not a bad thing. Some women will warrant exclusivity.

 

[CollegeMan22]

I would take a piss and say, "so tell me why I would commit more?"

because serious most don't bring anything other then a ***** and that there is thousands out there

She brings me multiple protein bars and protein snacks every time she comes over and has taken me out to an all you can eat steakhouse. Not that bad.

 

[CollegeMan22]

No girl wants to feel like she’s only being used for the sex. An occasional lunch or walk doesn’t take much time or effort if you want to keep her around …
At 5 months she’s probably in lets get serious mode now.

I told her something similar. I said that we could hang out in the park some and we’d do some activities that I enjoy myself, but together. We used to do these things before she came over but now we just meet and walk to my apartment. It’s almost too easy.

 

[CollegeMan22]

Iron Rule of Tomassi #1

Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.

With that said, there comes a point where a woman won't wait around forever. You have to lead the relationship, recognize her level of value, and lead the relationship forward. Is your current 5 month woman worthy of exclusivity? You don't have to be with her forever but her asking for exclusivity now is not a bad thing. Some women will warrant exclusivity.

I don’t think I can commit and be exclusive. It’s too much fun to play the game. I enjoy the challenge and seduction of banging a new woman. I also feel an urge to approach attractive women I see on campus. It hurts NOT to do.

On my college campus, I can have only one girl who I see during the day. That is basically her. But I still plan dates at night with other girls when it is dark and no one is around. It is not my desire to stop doing that.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I don’t think I can commit and be exclusive. It’s too much fun to play the game. I enjoy the challenge and seduction of banging a new woman. I also feel an urge to approach attractive women I see on campus. It hurts NOT to do.

On my college campus, I can have only one girl who I see during the day. That is basically her. But I still plan dates at night with other girls when it is dark and no one is around. It is not my desire to stop doing that.

Then you can't have it both ways. You can't keep women from moving on, that's life. Women will only be with a guy for so long if they don't commit to something more.

No right or wrong answer but you want it both ways and it doesn't work like that.

 

[BadBoy89]

Introduce her to someone that is better looking and taller than you.

She will forget about you and will want to sleep with him.

 

[SW15]

I don’t think I can commit and be exclusive. It’s too much fun to play the game. I enjoy the challenge and seduction of banging a new woman. I also feel an urge to approach attractive women I see on campus. It hurts NOT to do.

On my college campus, I can have only one girl who I see during the day. That is basically her. But I still plan dates at night with other girls when it is dark and no one is around. It is not my desire to stop doing that.

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She brings me multiple protein bars and protein snacks every time she comes over and has taken me out to an all you can eat steakhouse. Not that bad.

She has shown some indicators that she's worth exclusivity. Exclusivity does not have to be forever. In fact, it likely won't be. However, it doesn't mean that she doesn't deserve exclusivity for at least some period of time.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Introduce her to someone that is better looking and taller than you.

She will forget about you and will want to sleep with him.

Actually, women are very hard to break from their comfortability. If I did that, the girls will not be able to stop thinking about me and will be more pissed off at the new guy. It further hurts them when I don't show any care that she monkey branches.

 

[2Rocky]

This has happened to me two times. Girls that I am banging get mad at me that I never “spend time with them”. They ask me to text more often, or quicker. Or they ask me to eat lunch with them more, or go on walks more. Instead of just meeting and banging.

I don’t know how to best deal with this. I don’t want to become beta so I almost never compromise. I NEVER try to appease her if this happens. Generally I do the agree and amplify, “Oh yes let’s see each other every second, I’m so excited”. I also try to say as little as possible and just hold eye contact with them. But a lot of the times they are too serious for this to work.

Guys who have dealt with this, what is the proper response? FYI, I got a girl I’ve been seeing for 5 months who’s saying this.

Well you aren't suffocating them at least... You can alleviate that somewhat with a regular schedule....I had a girl I would call/would call me in the morning on my way driving to work. That was our regular check in time. I always had the time constraint of getting to the work parking lot and gotta get in the door. Having a routine is more comforting.

You are a busy guy...Fraternity duties, study hall, classed every day, but this time is hers...it's a small but meaningful commitment...