Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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how do i talk to her

MikePablo

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I haven't talked to her yet. I saw her many times in the hallway today and she always looked at me, not sure if I should make eye contact back or what. I think I will make a facebook, add a few friends and hope that she adds me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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YoYoRocks

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MikePablo said:
I haven't talked to her yet. I saw her many times in the hallway today and she always looked at me, not sure if I should make eye contact back or what. I think I will make a facebook, add a few friends and hope that she adds me.

lol you got some serious problems man.


Whats the worst possible scenario if you go up and talk to her?
 

NorwegianDJ

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YoYoRocks said:
lol you got some serious problems man.


Whats the worst possible scenario if you go up and talk to her?
Dude, I can identify with this guy. I was like that when I first got into this. Most people are.

You dont have serious problems.
Maybe you do, but they are COMMON serious problems.

How to fix it?
Taking action to break the pattern.
Go talk to her.
Action comes before confidence.
 

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Quick post before I head to the gym ;)

Yo man make a facebook but also keep eye contact and if you can throw in a smile, it might be uncomfortable at first since you not used to it but trust me eye contact is hugeeee. Just make sure you don't stare because that can get awkward. Dueces.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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