"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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how do i reply to her on pof?

thechosenone2190

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ME
12/28/2012 8:23:34 PM
Salary: 41K
Hobbies: Basketball, Weightlifting, Coding using PHP, Reading, Meditation

Straight to the point, I think your pretty. Want to chat?

HB
12/28/2012 11:04:46 PM
Salary: About double what I make. Not hat I give a **** about that. Because money doesn't buy happiness. At least, it can't buy what I want, for the most part (although, it seems like you can pay anybody for anything these days).
Hobbies: sounds good. Reading what in particular? Novelas? Periodicals? What's written in bathroom stalls? Also have you ever reached Brahma? (lolz.)

At least your straightforward.

ME
12/29/2012 12:58:32 PM
i'm reading world war z now. it's about zombies. they're making a movie for it soon starring brad pitt. i finished hunger games and abraham lincoln vampire slayer. what do you read? 50 shades of grey?

HB
12/29/2012 3:10:09 PM
Yeah. 50 Shades of Grey, a badly written trashy love novel that misconstrues **** and promotes abusive relationships. You got that right.

I'm just finishing some Bradbury short stories at the moment.

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can you guys tell me how to reply? i've never read bradbury short stories. but i do find this hb very attractive, and she lives in a town very close to mines
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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pinkfl

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I'm sorry, but I'm busy cringing at every time you used "your" instead of "you're".

In any case, just ask her what it's about, why she likes or dislikes it, etc.
 

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pinkfl said:
I'm sorry, but I'm busy cringing at every time you used "your" instead of "you're".
Fo sho.

Also, I'm confused, you opened your message stating your salary and hobbies?

But anyway, your conversation is kind of boring, stop talking about books for fvcks sake.

'Yeah Bradbury is pretty cool. So are you a [insert city here] girl? What kind of trouble do you get into around here?'

Blah blah, exchange a couple messages, then 'well this site is kinda lame, let's exchange numbers so we can text instead, I'm at [insert number here].'

Either she'll send you her number, text you, or you'll find out she's not into you.
 

Kbomb

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I read at a third grade level so I haven't tried Bradbury yet. Who knew Fahrenheit went that high?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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