"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How do I play this?-she says maybe next weekend, needs to check sled
- Thread starter teddy
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
This! I had a girl awhile back make plans with me only to flake the day we were supposed to go out. Then she turn around 2 hours before the time we had set to go out with a text about "We can still go out if you want to. I chickened out earlier." I was thinking "wtf are you 13 years old or something?". This girl was a 27 year old teacher acting like a complete child. Chickened out. wtf lady? I told her sorry I made plans to work late after you canceled on me. Then she proceeds to pretty much BEG me to take her @$$ out when I got off work. Ain't gonna happen. I'm not working 10 hours, rush home to take a shower and chance you changing your mind again. She then goes into the "well don't kick yourself later on, you had your chance!" Um, ok, you and that white horse you rode in on can both go to he!!. She did go out of her way to mention she had a date the next night. Wonder if she cancelled on that guy? Probably not. Oh well, screw em both. I stood my ground with this b!tch and wasn't about to lose my dignity to come running to her after she changes her mind. Have some pride fellas!skinnyguy said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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A woman showing 100% high interest will chase you instead. Don't waste your time, money, and emotional investment.
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Yaap this.skinnyguy said:
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I drop any woman who flakes on me once. A flake equals low to no interest and the women who flake on you typically know they're flaking. Using a celebrity maxim, it all makes sense. Why would a woman flake if she wants to see you, and run the risk of losing out on you?
There are those who will counteroffer, but those are few and far in between. If she goes ghost on you, drop her.
Ok, so basically go ghost and when/if she says she's free for sure then great? She went from saying "maybe next weekend, I have to check my schedule" to "I should be free next weekend" after I said "ok, cool". Didn't reply to her second text. Just wait a week and see if she gets back to me with firm "I'm free" instead of asking again?nismo-4 said:
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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No, no...not after she gives you the excuse, literally in your first few texts before you ask her out...just as a playful kind of thing...teddy said:
as in "Yeah, I don't know about you...you seem like one of those flaky women that makes plans and then doesn't follow through...I try and avoid them like the plague! Lol"
Of course she will deny it and play along, but you at least let her know up front not to flake on you, which tends to reduce it somewhat but not eliminate it...
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Your probability is higher if you try going for a week day date with a new broad. Sun-Thurs with new chicks @ night. Make them earn Fri/Sat night dates when it becomes a guaranteed lay. Give it a try next time, be different every beta/chump is asking her out on Fri/Sat night.
If she can't do a week day date then you have your answer, low interest.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Relax. He just met her and asked her out for a weekend and she was busy. People post high school and college book get busy on weekends. She countered that she was free the following weekend. He may still be good, just has to wait and see. No need to be so rigid.pyros said:
Being busy days after you meet somebody isn't a flake. Adults legitimately have things to do that they can't drop with a couple days notice for someone they just met. If she doesn't go out with him the next time, tho, it is and he should move on.
He's doing fine.
I'm just gonna play it cool. Have a feeling she has something else planned and is waiting to see what falls before committing.