How do I play this?-she says maybe next weekend, needs to check sled

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Asked a HB out, I got a specific excuse (she has some big event). She said "maybe next weekend? I'll have to check my schedule."

How do I play this? I'm thinking "ok, cool." And then leave it up to her to get back to me?
 

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Yep like has been mentioned on this site. If she does not, I usually give a 3 strike policy when hitting her up in the future while placing her on the backburner.
 

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Seemed to work really well. Now she's telling me she "should now be free next weekend". We'll see if she'll actually get back to make firm plans, but I guess all I can do is wait it out and see if she does get back, right?
 

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Yeah, I would just wait. Don't keep bugging her about it, you will come across as needy.
 

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High chance that if she does end up making plans with you, she'll flake.

If a girl flakes on me, I promptly delete her number. It should be a ONE strike rule. A girl will never flake if she is interested in you.
 

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skinnyguy said:
High chance that if she does end up making plans with you, she'll flake.

If a girl flakes on me, I promptly delete her number. It should be a ONE strike rule. A girl will never flake if she is interested in you.
This! I had a girl awhile back make plans with me only to flake the day we were supposed to go out. Then she turn around 2 hours before the time we had set to go out with a text about "We can still go out if you want to. I chickened out earlier." I was thinking "wtf are you 13 years old or something?". This girl was a 27 year old teacher acting like a complete child. Chickened out. wtf lady? I told her sorry I made plans to work late after you canceled on me. Then she proceeds to pretty much BEG me to take her @$$ out when I got off work. Ain't gonna happen. I'm not working 10 hours, rush home to take a shower and chance you changing your mind again. She then goes into the "well don't kick yourself later on, you had your chance!" Um, ok, you and that white horse you rode in on can both go to he!!. She did go out of her way to mention she had a date the next night. Wonder if she cancelled on that guy? Probably not. Oh well, screw em both. I stood my ground with this b!tch and wasn't about to lose my dignity to come running to her after she changes her mind. Have some pride fellas!
 

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Women seems to always have a motive or playing games these days. I agree with the 1 strike rule and you are out - only if you are looking for quality relationship material. Would you want to get involved with a woman who isn't honest from the beginning? Most of them want the man to chase them - but this does not work as it only feeds their ego and the will lose interest.

A woman showing 100% high interest will chase you instead. Don't waste your time, money, and emotional investment.

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skinnyguy said:
High chance that if she does end up making plans with you, she'll flake.

If a girl flakes on me, I promptly delete her number. It should be a ONE strike rule. A girl will never flake if she is interested in you.
Yaap this.
 

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We should amend the two strikes rule into a one strike rule. Women are playing more games than ever and as we all know, a woman who is interested in you will not confuse you, and will find a way to make a meeting with you happen!

I drop any woman who flakes on me once. A flake equals low to no interest and the women who flake on you typically know they're flaking. Using a celebrity maxim, it all makes sense. Why would a woman flake if she wants to see you, and run the risk of losing out on you?

There are those who will counteroffer, but those are few and far in between. If she goes ghost on you, drop her.
 

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nismo-4 said:
We should amend the two strikes rule into a one strike rule. Women are playing more games than ever and as we all know, a woman who is interested in you will not confuse you, and will find a way to make a meeting with you happen!

I drop any woman who flakes on me once. A flake equals low to no interest and the women who flake on you typically know they're flaking. Using a celebrity maxim, it all makes sense. Why would a woman flake if she wants to see you, and run the risk of losing out on you?

There are those who will counteroffer, but those are few and far in between. If she goes ghost on you, drop her.
Ok, so basically go ghost and when/if she says she's free for sure then great? She went from saying "maybe next weekend, I have to check my schedule" to "I should be free next weekend" after I said "ok, cool". Didn't reply to her second text. Just wait a week and see if she gets back to me with firm "I'm free" instead of asking again?
 

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I've found that dropping a hint while your talking/texting in the first few texts like "You are not one of those flaky women who makes plans and then doesn't follow through are you? I usually avoid them like the plague..." seems to help reduce them for me...
 

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marmel75 said:
I've found that dropping a hint while your talking/texting in the first few texts like "You are not one of those flaky women who makes plans and then doesn't follow through are you? I usually avoid them like the plague..." seems to help reduce them for me...
This was an option, but I didn't want to seem butthurt since her excuse actually seemed legit.
 

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teddy said:
This was an option, but I didn't want to seem butthurt since her excuse actually seemed legit.
No, no...not after she gives you the excuse, literally in your first few texts before you ask her out...just as a playful kind of thing...

as in "Yeah, I don't know about you...you seem like one of those flaky women that makes plans and then doesn't follow through...I try and avoid them like the plague! Lol"

Of course she will deny it and play along, but you at least let her know up front not to flake on you, which tends to reduce it somewhat but not eliminate it...
 

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teddy said:
Just wait a week and see if she gets back to me with firm "I'm free" instead of asking again?
YES.

Ball is in her court to contact you now.
 

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Chicks & guys have sh*t on weekends planned out in advance. Is this a first date meet-up?
Your probability is higher if you try going for a week day date with a new broad. Sun-Thurs with new chicks @ night. Make them earn Fri/Sat night dates when it becomes a guaranteed lay. Give it a try next time, be different every beta/chump is asking her out on Fri/Sat night.

If she can't do a week day date then you have your answer, low interest.
 
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hockeyfreak79 said:
Chicks & guys have sh*t on weekends planned out in advance. Is this a first date meet-up?
Your probability is higher if you try going for a week day date with a new broad. Sun-Thurs with new chicks @ night. Make them earn Fri/Sat night dates when it becomes a guaranteed lay. Give it a try next time, be different every beta/chump is asking her out on Fri/Sat night.

If she can't do a week day date then you have your answer, low interest.
Will be difficult with my schedule. I basically only have the weekends free to do anything and not be tired for it. She works a similar schedule.
 

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COME ON....she's just NOT INTERESTED dude.
if she was she wouldnt be that busy to start with! for god's shake, stop waisting your time trying to figure out why she's not available for you. SHE DOES NOT LIKE YOU.
 

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pyros said:
COME ON....she's just NOT INTERESTED dude.
if she was she wouldnt be that busy to start with! for god's shake, stop waisting your time trying to figure out why she's not available for you. SHE DOES NOT LIKE YOU.
Relax. He just met her and asked her out for a weekend and she was busy. People post high school and college book get busy on weekends. She countered that she was free the following weekend. He may still be good, just has to wait and see. No need to be so rigid.

Being busy days after you meet somebody isn't a flake. Adults legitimately have things to do that they can't drop with a couple days notice for someone they just met. If she doesn't go out with him the next time, tho, it is and he should move on.

He's doing fine.
 

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Update: she got back to me a couple days ago, reiterated that she was free this weekend and said she was going to be in my area. I gave her a time and meeting place. Have since not heard from her back.

I'm just gonna play it cool. Have a feeling she has something else planned and is waiting to see what falls before committing.
 
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