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OP either you will potentially live with the pain of rejection for a few hours or days or you will live with the pain of regret if you do nothing for years.

I know which one I would choose.

Not to mention she might actually be into you so there is a chance you get to bang her senseless for a few months before she leaves.
 

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I don't know man, I really don't wanna risk awkwardness at work or the word of mouth getting around that I asked her out in case she rejects me; that's why I'd probably wait until the last days, which will be in a few months, but maybe start to heat things up a bit already.
No risk, no reward. Life is about taking risks. Don't be a passenger in your own life.

What are you worried about them saying? "That guy has the balls we wish we had?"
 

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I've decided to wait and ask her a few days after she's left; I don't want to screw up or impact my job in any way because of her.
 

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Her bday was today so I sent her a nice message but her reply was pretty generic, so I think I'll drop this one
 

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Her bday was today so I sent her a nice message but her reply was pretty generic, so I think I'll drop this one
"Happy birthday" is not shooting your shot. Just ask her out. Regret is more painful than rejection.
 

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"Happy birthday" is not shooting your shot. Just ask her out. Regret is more painful than rejection.
I'll see how she is towards me in the months before she leaves, but will only ask her after she's left the company
 

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Well back to work after a long vacation today, spent quite a lot of time with her and she sat next to me at lunch and we talked, and got coffee as well, she asked if I knew she was leaving, but that she's staying around. Seems to be some good movement there, will be interesting these few months ahead.
 

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A hot coworker I kinda have a crush on is leaving in a few months and there's always energy between us; she also started following me on IG and interacts with me there sometimes, but we haven't hung out outside of work yet. If you were in my situation, would you pull any moves while she's still working at the company or you'd wait until she's out?
Ask her out for a drink before she leaves.
 

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Shoot your shot in person.

Ask her out and make sure she understands it's not in platonic way. If she rejects you simple back off and remove yourself from her. If she knows you're interested she might always hit you up once she's not working at the same place.

You have nothing to lose in this situation.

Never wait for "the perfect time". The time is now.
Plugged in advice OP. Just talk to her and express your interest. Gotta go for it
 

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Plugged in advice OP. Just talk to her and express your interest. Gotta go for it
I'm not willing to risk awkwardness and rumor-spreading around the office, this job is much too important to me. However we seem to be a little closer now since I'm back, so will see how it develops; if it comes naturally to a point where a chance of spending time together outside of work presents itself (she hints at it), I would take it. Otherwise, I'll ask her out when she is done working here.
 

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I'm not willing to risk awkwardness and rumor-spreading around the office, this job is much too important to me. However we seem to be a little closer now since I'm back, so will see how it develops; if it comes naturally to a point where a chance of spending time together outside of work presents itself (she hints at it), I would take it. Otherwise, I'll ask her out when she is done working here.
Not going to work. Sneaking up on a chic never works. But maybe the stars will shine on you
 

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I'm not willing to risk awkwardness and rumor-spreading around the office, this job is much too important to me. However we seem to be a little closer now since I'm back, so will see how it develops; if it comes naturally to a point where a chance of spending time together outside of work presents itself (she hints at it), I would take it. Otherwise, I'll ask her out when she is done working here.
It's only awkward if you make it awkward. However, now that you say she is staying it probably is a bad idea.
 

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Not going to work. Sneaking up on a chic never works. But maybe the stars will shine on you
What do you mean sneaking up? I meant to say that if she openly states a wish to hang out outside of work, I'll of course take it up. Otherwise, I will wait until she finishes working here before I ask her out.
 

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What? She's not staying.
Oh I thought you said she was a few posts ago with an update...must have read it wrong.

I don't see a valid reason not to go for it other than you trying to protect yourself from rejection and using other excuses as reasons.
 

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Oh I thought you said she was a few posts ago with an update...must have read it wrong.

I don't see a valid reason not to go for it other than you trying to protect yourself from rejection and using other excuses as reasons.
You really don't see how a small office could react to her potentially rejecting me after I hit on her while she still works here and then the word getting out?
 

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What do you mean sneaking up? I meant to say that if she openly states a wish to hang out outside of work, I'll of course take it up. Otherwise, I will wait until she finishes working here before I ask her out.
Ok. Keep us posted on this thread if you close this or not.
 

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OP, you are limiting yourself. I get it, a previous situation is still stuck in your head and you like your job.
But showing interest in someone is not creepy at all, given that it seems like that she‘s already giving you hints.
If it gets uncomfortable afterwards you made an awkward approach or she is just a ****ty person.
While it‘s good to be careful and handle this thoughtful, don‘t manifest your thoughts like this on a negative outcome. I‘ve been there and nearly wasted my chance till I thought **** it…
I won‘t convince you to something you don‘t want to do. But be outcome independent. If someone would make fun of me for asking out a girl I, couldn‘t take it seriously. At least I had the courage to do it.
 

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OP, you are limiting yourself. I get it, a previous situation is still stuck in your head and you like your job.
But showing interest in someone is not creepy at all, given that it seems like that she‘s already giving you hints.
If it gets uncomfortable afterwards you made an awkward approach or she is just a ****ty person.
While it‘s good to be careful and handle this thoughtful, don‘t manifest your thoughts like this on a negative outcome. I‘ve been there and nearly wasted my chance till I thought **** it…
I won‘t convince you to something you don‘t want to do. But be outcome independent. If someone would make fun of me for asking out a girl I, couldn‘t take it seriously. At least I had the courage to do it.
Thanks for understanding. That's why I am open to shooting my shot but only if she hints at it; otherwise, waiting until she finishes working here, and that way there's no risk.
 
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