"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How do I make the girl wanna talk to me?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
EDIT: It could be because you can't spell and have poor grammar...
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
yea, that's it. Why isn't that one in the bible?
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
You're right, im asking WAY TOO MUCH for people to spell correctly...my deepest apologizes.Originally posted by DJ_in_making
yea, that's it. Why isn't that one in the bible?
It's "You're right. I'm asking way too much for people to spell correctly. My deepest apologies"
I'm assuming that you did know those mistakes, and were mocking him.
You do have a point though. I personally don't mind the odd spelling and grammar mistakes as much as those ****ing tools who come on, write a post in 15 seconds, and are totally incoherent when you go to read it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The best way to keep a girl's desire to spend time with you is by keeping her interested in you. This answer should be an obvious one.
How to do that? Be charming, funny, sweet, fun, and let her ENJOY your company...
I had this happen a few days ago. There was this girl (well actually a woman (24 yo)) who I liked. I only knew her name and age and met her another time at that venue but for only 1-3 minutes or so. So I was kinda intimidated by talking to her since she's 5-6 years older and I didn't talk go talk to her for like 2,5 hours of being there. After that she came to me and said: "You sure are shy aren't you?"
Now, wouldn't it be better if I would've just talked to her first (even if it was just for a couple of minutes).
Off course, so that's what's going to happen from now on
Viper
Banned
Easier said than done.
If you believe that it's going to be hard then it's gonna be hard.
If you just have fun, and enjoy yourself first it will be a lot easyer. Maybe you're trying to hard to be funny, charming and an enjoyment to be around. Or maybe you're not doing anything at all.
The fact is that you just got to be relaxed en laidback. You just have to make sure you enjoy the interaction YOURSELF.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
It's "I'm assuming that you did know those mistakes, and we're mocking him."
To the original poster:
You have to be something that she misses when you leave. You have to give her something that most other people don't give her. That is being great company. Have FUN! If you are having FUN, she will see just how GREAT OF A TIME you are having and she will want to get in on that FUN, thus she will come to you. Just go out there and make sure YOU have FUN. Your FUN attitude will rub off on other people who will then want to get in on that FUN time.
For more info click here:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
Viper
Banned
Well, of course it's going to be hard, if you're not naturally a funny, I can be ****y, but being funny isn't one of my strong points and a lot of times when I'm ****y, it comes off as being assholish. But this isn't my topic to debate in.
AC/DC
Master Don Juan
You have conflicting tenses. "We were" is grammatically correct.
bluelemond, the rest of your post contained good advice.
The Master Disaster
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Why do you critize when you cannot spell or use grammar correctly?
What is wrong with this you may ask?
You're right,
(Complete sentence, contractions are bad English.)
CORRECT: You are right.
im asking WAY TOO MUCH for people to spell correctly... (Capitalize your first word, contractions need ', again contractions are bad English, do not capatilize words for no reason, and your ... does not make sense because it is a complete sentence and you are not leaving out anything.)
CORRECT: I am asking way too much for people to spell correctly.
my deepest apologizes.
(Again capitalize your first letter in the sentence, however, you did use an implied subject and verb correctly, but "apologizes?" I do not get it. Do you mean apologies? Apologizes doesn't not exist. Ex: "I apologizes" or "We apologizes" It do not exist. I believe you are looking for a plural noun "Apologies.")
CORRECT: My deepest apologies.
CORRECT: You are right. I am asking way too much for people to spell correctly. My deepest apologies.
That was a complete waiste of my time.
AC/DC
Master Don Juan
Was it really necessary to point all that out?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
superman2k6
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lame..
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waste*
People, please stop correcting people... especially if you can't correct them correctly.
(Sorry, I just had to.)
The Master Disaster
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AC/DC
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lol
I think he spelled "waste" wrong on purpose.. man, you guys are dense.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.