You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
yea, that's it. Why isn't that one in the bible?Originally posted by oakraiderz2
EDIT: It could be because you can't spell and have poor grammar...
You're right, im asking WAY TOO MUCH for people to spell correctly...my deepest apologizes.Originally posted by DJ_in_making
yea, that's it. Why isn't that one in the bible?![]()
It's "You're right. I'm asking way too much for people to spell correctly. My deepest apologies"Originally posted by oakraiderz2
You're right, im asking WAY TOO MUCH for people to spell correctly...my deepest apologizes.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Easier said than done.Originally posted by Fitch
Guys, stop complaining and get stick to the topic.
The best way to keep a girl's desire to spend time with you is by keeping her interested in you. This answer should be an obvious one.
How to do that? Be charming, funny, sweet, fun, and let her ENJOY your company...
Not for Fitch.Originally posted by Viper
Easier said than done.
If you believe that it's going to be hard then it's gonna be hard.Easier said than done.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Originally posted by golfguy
It's "You're right. I'm asking way too much for people to spell correctly. My deepest apologies"
I'm assuming that you did know those mistakes, and were mocking him.
You do have a point though. I personally don't mind the odd spelling and grammar mistakes as much as those ****ing tools who come on, write a post in 15 seconds, and are totally incoherent when you go to read it.
Well, of course it's going to be hard, if you're not naturally a funny, I can be ****y, but being funny isn't one of my strong points and a lot of times when I'm ****y, it comes off as being assholish. But this isn't my topic to debate in.Originally posted by Holland
If you believe that it's going to be hard then it's gonna be hard.
If you just have fun, and enjoy yourself first it will be a lot easyer. Maybe you're trying to hard to be funny, charming and an enjoyment to be around. Or maybe you're not doing anything at all.
The fact is that you just got to be relaxed en laidback. You just have to make sure you enjoy the interaction YOURSELF.
You have conflicting tenses. "We were" is grammatically correct.Originally posted by bluelemond
It's "I'm assuming that you did know those mistakes, and we're mocking him."
Why do you critize when you cannot spell or use grammar correctly?Originally posted by oakraiderz2
You're right, im asking WAY TOO MUCH for people to spell correctly...my deepest apologizes.
Was it really necessary to point all that out?Originally posted by The Master Disaster
Why do you critize when you cannot spell or use grammar correctly?
What is wrong with this you may ask?
You're right,
(Complete sentence, contractions are bad English.)
CORRECT: You are right.
im asking WAY TOO MUCH for people to spell correctly... (Capitalize your first word, contractions need ', again contractions are bad English, do not capatilize words for no reason, and your ... does not make sense because it is a complete sentence and you are not leaving out anything.)
CORRECT: I am asking way too much for people to spell correctly.
my deepest apologizes.
(Again capitalize your first letter in the sentence, however, you did use an implied subject and verb correctly, but "apologizes?" I do not get it. Do you mean apologies? Apologizes doesn't not exist. Ex: "I apologizes" or "We apologizes" It do not exist. I believe you are looking for a plural noun "Apologies.")
CORRECT: My deepest apologies.
CORRECT: You are right. I am asking way too much for people to spell correctly. My deepest apologies.
That was a complete waiste of my time.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
waste*Originally posted by The Master Disaster
That was a complete waiste of my time. [/B]
No.Originally posted by AC/DC
Was it really necessary to point all that out?
lolOriginally posted by The Master Disaster
No.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.