Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How do I make the girl wanna talk to me?
- Thread starter Rint
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
EDIT: It could be because you can't spell and have poor grammar...
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
yea, that's it. Why isn't that one in the bible?
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
You're right, im asking WAY TOO MUCH for people to spell correctly...my deepest apologizes.Originally posted by DJ_in_making
yea, that's it. Why isn't that one in the bible?
It's "You're right. I'm asking way too much for people to spell correctly. My deepest apologies"
I'm assuming that you did know those mistakes, and were mocking him.
You do have a point though. I personally don't mind the odd spelling and grammar mistakes as much as those ****ing tools who come on, write a post in 15 seconds, and are totally incoherent when you go to read it.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The best way to keep a girl's desire to spend time with you is by keeping her interested in you. This answer should be an obvious one.
How to do that? Be charming, funny, sweet, fun, and let her ENJOY your company...
I had this happen a few days ago. There was this girl (well actually a woman (24 yo)) who I liked. I only knew her name and age and met her another time at that venue but for only 1-3 minutes or so. So I was kinda intimidated by talking to her since she's 5-6 years older and I didn't talk go talk to her for like 2,5 hours of being there. After that she came to me and said: "You sure are shy aren't you?"
Now, wouldn't it be better if I would've just talked to her first (even if it was just for a couple of minutes).
Off course, so that's what's going to happen from now on
Viper
Banned
Easier said than done.
If you believe that it's going to be hard then it's gonna be hard.
If you just have fun, and enjoy yourself first it will be a lot easyer. Maybe you're trying to hard to be funny, charming and an enjoyment to be around. Or maybe you're not doing anything at all.
The fact is that you just got to be relaxed en laidback. You just have to make sure you enjoy the interaction YOURSELF.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
It's "I'm assuming that you did know those mistakes, and we're mocking him."
To the original poster:
You have to be something that she misses when you leave. You have to give her something that most other people don't give her. That is being great company. Have FUN! If you are having FUN, she will see just how GREAT OF A TIME you are having and she will want to get in on that FUN, thus she will come to you. Just go out there and make sure YOU have FUN. Your FUN attitude will rub off on other people who will then want to get in on that FUN time.
For more info click here:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
Viper
Banned
Well, of course it's going to be hard, if you're not naturally a funny, I can be ****y, but being funny isn't one of my strong points and a lot of times when I'm ****y, it comes off as being assholish. But this isn't my topic to debate in.
AC/DC
Master Don Juan
You have conflicting tenses. "We were" is grammatically correct.
bluelemond, the rest of your post contained good advice.
The Master Disaster
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Why do you critize when you cannot spell or use grammar correctly?
What is wrong with this you may ask?
You're right,
(Complete sentence, contractions are bad English.)
CORRECT: You are right.
im asking WAY TOO MUCH for people to spell correctly... (Capitalize your first word, contractions need ', again contractions are bad English, do not capatilize words for no reason, and your ... does not make sense because it is a complete sentence and you are not leaving out anything.)
CORRECT: I am asking way too much for people to spell correctly.
my deepest apologizes.
(Again capitalize your first letter in the sentence, however, you did use an implied subject and verb correctly, but "apologizes?" I do not get it. Do you mean apologies? Apologizes doesn't not exist. Ex: "I apologizes" or "We apologizes" It do not exist. I believe you are looking for a plural noun "Apologies.")
CORRECT: My deepest apologies.
CORRECT: You are right. I am asking way too much for people to spell correctly. My deepest apologies.
That was a complete waiste of my time.
AC/DC
Master Don Juan
Was it really necessary to point all that out?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
superman2k6
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lame..
Michele l'Arcangelo
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waste*
People, please stop correcting people... especially if you can't correct them correctly.
(Sorry, I just had to.)
The Master Disaster
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AC/DC
Master Don Juan
lol
I think he spelled "waste" wrong on purpose.. man, you guys are dense.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.