"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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how do i kino a girl in a coffee place when i'm sitting opposite and she's too far?

big weezy

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i have this problem a lot in starbucks.. i try to game a girl and immediately use some of my 1st date routine for kino but if i'm sitting opposite her at a distance it's difficult for me to kino cos i cant reach. she's not leaning forward and i dont want to either as it'll make me look too keen body language wise.

how do i get the kino going immediately if she's like 4 feet away from me?

like what do i do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ARrocket

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Get your coffee to go and take a walk.

If you insist on sitting in the coffee shop, and she's too far away, you can either:

1) Move closer

2) Wait until you leave.
 

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Yeah I've got to agree with ARocket. Every coffee date that I've ever gone on has only taken place inside a coffee shop for a few minutes - while getting coffee.

Then it's either a random walk or a walk to somewhere else or whatever but it never stays in the coffee shop, unless it's an LTR. If the tables are round then you can sit sort-of to the side of her, which would make you a little closer.
 

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First of all, don't do coffee dates if you can help it. Go for drinks (ie, alcohol). Remember boys and girls: coffee == boring, alcohol == sex.

But I won't be a jerk, when I've done coffee dates we've never sat in the coffee shop, we always walk around. Walk around the mall, go for a walk in the park, along the river, whatever. The coffee shop is only a stop on your date, not the destination.

But remember, alcohol == sex!!!!!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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big weezy

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f283000 said:
Why are you taking girls to coffee shops? :crazy:

Take her for a few drinks. If you're not at the drinking age take her to billiards/bowling where you can kino easily.
no no i'm not taking them there for a date, they are already there, im trying to pick them up by gaming them but i want to start the kino straight away to get a head start.
 
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