Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
pimp slap her.That_guy said:I am thinking my gf does not really love me, and she is a manipulative b*tch, how do i handle this?
what did she do...?That_guy said:I am thinking my gf does not really love me, and she is a manipulative b*tch, how do i handle this?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
He is.joverby said:Damn, dude. I really hope your a troll, for your own sake. But you might not be so I'll tell you what's wrong.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
joverby said:Damn, dude. I really hope your a troll, for your own sake. But you might not be so I'll tell you what's wrong.
I'll start with the fact that' it's only been a week and you're trying to control this girl and have to twist her arm to have her introduce you as her boyfriend and make it "facebook official."
You're acting really insecure / controling , I don't see her staying with you long.
You have to get yourself in a not so obsessed mindset. You can't bother to be cared if she goes and gets coffee with some dude and you sure as hell can with females if you want to.
You should be too busy hanging out w/ buddies / other girls if you want to w/e. Definitely shouldn't be worried about the relationship status on facebook like that or formalities with what she calls you, sounds like stuff girls get worried about.
so what break up with her?NewAndImproved said:I bet you're the one who initiated the "what are we" talk.
I bet you're the one who forced her to make things "Facebook official."
Should be the other way around.
She's just not that into you. Learn from your mistakes and try again.
You're really insecure / controlling. I can't stress how much your over looking you've been "dating"(Forced) this girl for A WEEK!! If this was your wife or something you might be in a position to ***** / freak out about it.That_guy said:When a girl dont want to introduce you as a boyfriend to another man, its a big red flag
on top of that, getting coffee without telling me...if I was to do the same, she would flip out
joverby said:You're really insecure / controlling. I can't stress how much your over looking you've been "dating"(Forced) this girl for A WEEK!! If this was your wife or something you might be in a position to ***** / freak out about it.
Maybe she's talking to other dudes because the guy she thought was normal / fun / cool is turning into a insecure control freak?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Here is the funny punchlinePrettyBoyAJ said:Things have gotten out of control in one week with your girlfriend because you didn't lay down the law. You shouldn't have gotten into this relationship in the first place because she obviously doesn't comprehend the disrespect she is showing.
She obviously did but I think your missing the bigger picture. I'm pretty sure it happened BECAUSE of his AFC / clingy behavior. He can be upset for her doing that but I think it would be wise for some self reflection.PrettyBoyAJ said:She broke the rules then. You have no choice but to dump her. She didn't take your seriously. You either break up with her or she disregards everything that you two have talked about. Not that hard.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.