"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How do I handle a manipulative gf?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
women haze
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I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
what did she do...?That_guy said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
-Went and got coffee with two different guys on two different occasions without telling me (she told me later, and it was just as friends) On top of that, though she swore that she told that one dude she has a BF, he does not seem to know. Also she was reluctant to introduce me to him as her BF (srsly wtf it took me a lot of tries to finally convince her and even then she does not seem so thrilled) Ok so off-chance that she might like the company of male friends, how come I cannot have a coffee date with MY female friends.
-Its only been a week and we only became facebook official now, which she was reluctant to do as well.
I dont know if its me with the trust issues.
I am changing the question: How do I beat this oneitis? Or save-a-hoe-itis? I seriously dont feel right...........how do I handle this? so close to Christmas and ****
I'll start with the fact that' it's only been a week and you're trying to control this girl and have to twist her arm to have her introduce you as her boyfriend and make it "facebook official."
You're acting really insecure / controling , I don't see her staying with you long.
You have to get yourself in a not so obsessed mindset. You can't bother to be cared if she goes and gets coffee with some dude and you sure as hell can with females if you want to.
You should be too busy hanging out w/ buddies / other girls if you want to w/e. Definitely shouldn't be worried about the relationship status on facebook like that or formalities with what she calls you, sounds like stuff girls get worried about.
Iceberg
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He is.joverby said:
Over the course of 2 weeks, he's gone from asking how to ask a girl out, to thanking Sosuave for helping him get his first "LTR" (it's been a week), and now he's asking how to handle a manipulative gf.
So the only thing left to wonder is...why? Why is this man trolling on a men's site, just to get the attention of men he'll never meet...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
NewAndImproved
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I bet you're the one who forced her to make things "Facebook official."
Should be the other way around.
She's just not that into you. Learn from your mistakes and try again.
You're really insecure / controlling. I can't stress how much your over looking you've been "dating"(Forced) this girl for A WEEK!! If this was your wife or something you might be in a position to ***** / freak out about it.That_guy said:
Maybe she's talking to other dudes because the guy she thought was normal / fun / cool is turning into a insecure control freak?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
In her mind she has already crossed you out as "another nice guys aka ass kisser" she is with you right now because she has not found another dude yet.. trust when she'll find one she will dump you from the highest building in your city. so yeah be prepared or act before it happens.
Now to liberate yourself from oneitis you have to realize that this woman is just a woman, she has boobs just like any women, and a gina just like any women. You will not be the devil for breaking up with her, she does not respect you (even though you havent done anything to establish that respect) and doesnt really care at this point, if you have any balls just do it
PrettyBoyAJ
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For me however. If a girl see's no problem in going out with another guy one on one then I don't see a relationship period.
Things have gotten out of control in one week with your girlfriend because you didn't lay down the law. You shouldn't have gotten into this relationship in the first place because she obviously doesn't comprehend the disrespect she is showing.
PrettyBoyAJ
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She obviously did but I think your missing the bigger picture. I'm pretty sure it happened BECAUSE of his AFC / clingy behavior. He can be upset for her doing that but I think it would be wise for some self reflection.PrettyBoyAJ said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.