"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do I get rid of an AW (at work) without seeming an A-hole?

AmIAFC

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I've tried to ignore this wench, but she still does stupid sh** in an attempt to get my attention. Okay, so we were intimate at ONE point, but I've given her enough clues that I'm not interested in pursuing anything more with her. She keeps doing dumb sh** like hiding from someone using my office, looking into my office as she's just "walking by," and coming up with lame excuses to talk to me.

I don't want to report her to her boss -- she isn't really doing anything against company policy -- so what are my options?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Smooth Player 056

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Tell her politely: To cut it out or you are going to report her.

If she's a normal adult...she will realize she may get fired over this childish behavior...even if its not SPECIFICALLY against company policy.


Cheers

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4 WEEK ULTIMATE BOOTCAMP!!!! at www.thesexxx.com
 

ethnomethodologist

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lol ,is she a 180 pound HB5? I get those a lot as well. Just make sure that she knows you are JUST friends, whenever she displays this behaviour, ask her to come talk to you. Than ask her if she knows what "that HB9 you hang with on the weekends" is doing these days and what she is doing later.

She'll start avoiding you so she doesn't ruin her chances with you. Double entendre to kill her desperation and solve your problem.

The only times she will flirt with you from here on out is when you initiate. Even then, keep making her fall back so she doesn't tool herself.

Be careful though, she might be a crazy woman, and she may just corner you when you are alone. Hehe, kinky forbidden sex.
 

KontrollerX

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The quickest and most effective way to get rid of an HPD is to tell her you love her and be genuine about it.

They hate that and will abandon you as a result.

This is understandably not a desireable option for you and even though I am well read on these people its the only thing I've learned of thus far that gets rid of them.

The book Emotional Vampires has a section on HPD's in it and how to make them do what you want them to do so you could get that if you have the money.

Its only about $8 on Amazon.com.

I would of bought it already and told you what it said to do but my credit card has been acting screwy and as a result I couldn't get it.
 

Juan_Man

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If she puts out, then send her to me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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