i'm a loner and i want to change all that. i don't have many friends. my closest friends live in another start so i can't hang out with them. i have call others to hang out but they are all flakers. they just sit at home staring at their computer. i want to go out like to the bars or clubs but there is no one to come along. i'm not confident enough to go alone and meet new people. plus, a lonely guy who is picking up chicks comes off as a creepy guy. how can i solve this problem? i need a wingman.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
how do i get out of loners-ville?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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MAybe you should join a sport team or sometype of club so you can make new friends.Dude04 where do you live?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Get some co-worker friends, then?
Most churches would let you in regardless of if you're religious or not. So long as you don't make an ass out of yourself lol. I find people there are usually pretty open to making friends. But, granted, they also make laaaaaame wingmen most of the time lol.
In anycase, all I'm trying to convey is you should join some sort of group. Whether it's church, a club, a sports team, or whatever, just get into a social situation.
Most churches would let you in regardless of if you're religious or not. So long as you don't make an ass out of yourself lol. I find people there are usually pretty open to making friends. But, granted, they also make laaaaaame wingmen most of the time lol.
In anycase, all I'm trying to convey is you should join some sort of group. Whether it's church, a club, a sports team, or whatever, just get into a social situation.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
First of all, picking up girls by yourself isn't creepy at all if you know how to do it. I actually preffer to do it solo than with a wing. The trick is not letting the girls know that you're actually trying to pick them up. Instead, just try to strike up a convo with them. Something very non-threatening and you can go on from there.
You should try meetup.com its a website where people of different interests set up groups and meet once in a while. There are even pua groups, and social groups.
You should try meetup.com its a website where people of different interests set up groups and meet once in a while. There are even pua groups, and social groups.