i'm a loner and i want to change all that. i don't have many friends. my closest friends live in another start so i can't hang out with them. i have call others to hang out but they are all flakers. they just sit at home staring at their computer. i want to go out like to the bars or clubs but there is no one to come along. i'm not confident enough to go alone and meet new people. plus, a lonely guy who is picking up chicks comes off as a creepy guy. how can i solve this problem? i need a wingman.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
how do i get out of loners-ville?
- Thread starter dude04
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Young Anikan
Don Juan
MAybe you should join a sport team or sometype of club so you can make new friends.Dude04 where do you live?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Get some co-worker friends, then?
Most churches would let you in regardless of if you're religious or not. So long as you don't make an ass out of yourself lol. I find people there are usually pretty open to making friends. But, granted, they also make laaaaaame wingmen most of the time lol.
In anycase, all I'm trying to convey is you should join some sort of group. Whether it's church, a club, a sports team, or whatever, just get into a social situation.
Most churches would let you in regardless of if you're religious or not. So long as you don't make an ass out of yourself lol. I find people there are usually pretty open to making friends. But, granted, they also make laaaaaame wingmen most of the time lol.
In anycase, all I'm trying to convey is you should join some sort of group. Whether it's church, a club, a sports team, or whatever, just get into a social situation.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
First of all, picking up girls by yourself isn't creepy at all if you know how to do it. I actually preffer to do it solo than with a wing. The trick is not letting the girls know that you're actually trying to pick them up. Instead, just try to strike up a convo with them. Something very non-threatening and you can go on from there.
You should try meetup.com its a website where people of different interests set up groups and meet once in a while. There are even pua groups, and social groups.
You should try meetup.com its a website where people of different interests set up groups and meet once in a while. There are even pua groups, and social groups.