i'm a loner and i want to change all that. i don't have many friends. my closest friends live in another start so i can't hang out with them. i have call others to hang out but they are all flakers. they just sit at home staring at their computer. i want to go out like to the bars or clubs but there is no one to come along. i'm not confident enough to go alone and meet new people. plus, a lonely guy who is picking up chicks comes off as a creepy guy. how can i solve this problem? i need a wingman.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
how do i get out of loners-ville?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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MAybe you should join a sport team or sometype of club so you can make new friends.Dude04 where do you live?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Get some co-worker friends, then?
Most churches would let you in regardless of if you're religious or not. So long as you don't make an ass out of yourself lol. I find people there are usually pretty open to making friends. But, granted, they also make laaaaaame wingmen most of the time lol.
In anycase, all I'm trying to convey is you should join some sort of group. Whether it's church, a club, a sports team, or whatever, just get into a social situation.
Most churches would let you in regardless of if you're religious or not. So long as you don't make an ass out of yourself lol. I find people there are usually pretty open to making friends. But, granted, they also make laaaaaame wingmen most of the time lol.
In anycase, all I'm trying to convey is you should join some sort of group. Whether it's church, a club, a sports team, or whatever, just get into a social situation.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
First of all, picking up girls by yourself isn't creepy at all if you know how to do it. I actually preffer to do it solo than with a wing. The trick is not letting the girls know that you're actually trying to pick them up. Instead, just try to strike up a convo with them. Something very non-threatening and you can go on from there.
You should try meetup.com its a website where people of different interests set up groups and meet once in a while. There are even pua groups, and social groups.
You should try meetup.com its a website where people of different interests set up groups and meet once in a while. There are even pua groups, and social groups.