RichardTheFrog
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How do I connect with people?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How do I connect with people?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bobbylively
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Stare them in the eyes, be empathetic, and listen.
Best way is probably to listen to them and ask them questions. So if you meet someone and they say, "My favorite band is Goo Goo Dolls." Instead of replying with "Oh cool." you say "Oh yeah, great band. I just say were playing at XYZ did you catch the show? I heard it was awesome." and go from there
Milfhunter95
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Find common things to talk about, then start asking about them and they'll do the same to you
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
zekko
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How to Win Friends and Influence People is a good read.
Also, in addition to what other people here have said, if you can take a genuine interest in them, it helps.
Men especially tend to form friendships based on common interests.
Also, in addition to what other people here have said, if you can take a genuine interest in them, it helps.
Men especially tend to form friendships based on common interests.
Rxnxg
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Welp... I actually have a big problem about that, time ago something happened in my life, I'm not gonna give details about it, and I lost 90% of my friends, the ones that remained are "friends", not the true kind of friends where 1 it's more than enough, but yea... How would you deal with that situation?
Mike32ct
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For starters, you need to like people, at least some of them.
You will never be able to connect with people who sense that you don't like them.
Practice with people you like. You can then project some warmth and/or friendly vibe that they can pick up on.
You will never be able to connect with people who sense that you don't like them.
Practice with people you like. You can then project some warmth and/or friendly vibe that they can pick up on.
RichardTheFrog
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Yea I don't like them that much. I've been reading a lot of red pill stuff. It basically tells me not to like them.
Mike32ct
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I can be a cynic too sometimes, but I still know some good, cool people that I genuinely like.
I'm sure you can find at least one decent person (male or female) in your life that you can chat with. Then you'll start to see the good in people and find it a little easier to connect.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
EyeBRollin
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You have two ears but only one mouth. Use them accordingly.
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ChristopherColumbus
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On the Friday afternoon, you wander into your local Starbucks. You order your coffee, and then find the quiet nerdy corner, where all the loners are sitting reading or studying something on their laptop. Now set up shop mid a couple of beauties. Ignore them. Open up your laptop, and start reading. You must have something to be genuinely engrossed with here in order to take your mind off these lovlies to your left and right.
After half an hour, choose the woman you want to talk to. Move to a closer spot when a seat becomes available. Straight away, as you're setting up, open the conversation... anything, just be nonchalant and relaxed. Talk for say 20 minutes. Get the number. Keep talking for another five minutes. Leave... she has work to do. Text two and a half hours later. A bit of back and forth, and you have the date secured for Sunday [Saturday you will be a little hungover from a few beers at your local bar]. Good luck~~
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zekko
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There's an old saying: "Every man is my superior, in that I may learn something from him". I guess that doesn't sound very "alpha", but it's true.
Everyone knows something that you don't, or has a way about them that you can learn from. If you look at it that way, and try to discover that, it might help increase your interest in other people.