RichardTheFrog
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How do I connect with people?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How do I connect with people?
- Thread starter RichardTheFrog
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Bobbylively
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Stare them in the eyes, be empathetic, and listen.
Best way is probably to listen to them and ask them questions. So if you meet someone and they say, "My favorite band is Goo Goo Dolls." Instead of replying with "Oh cool." you say "Oh yeah, great band. I just say were playing at XYZ did you catch the show? I heard it was awesome." and go from there
Milfhunter95
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Find common things to talk about, then start asking about them and they'll do the same to you
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
zekko
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How to Win Friends and Influence People is a good read.
Also, in addition to what other people here have said, if you can take a genuine interest in them, it helps.
Men especially tend to form friendships based on common interests.
Also, in addition to what other people here have said, if you can take a genuine interest in them, it helps.
Men especially tend to form friendships based on common interests.
Rxnxg
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Welp... I actually have a big problem about that, time ago something happened in my life, I'm not gonna give details about it, and I lost 90% of my friends, the ones that remained are "friends", not the true kind of friends where 1 it's more than enough, but yea... How would you deal with that situation?
Mike32ct
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For starters, you need to like people, at least some of them.
You will never be able to connect with people who sense that you don't like them.
Practice with people you like. You can then project some warmth and/or friendly vibe that they can pick up on.
You will never be able to connect with people who sense that you don't like them.
Practice with people you like. You can then project some warmth and/or friendly vibe that they can pick up on.
RichardTheFrog
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Yea I don't like them that much. I've been reading a lot of red pill stuff. It basically tells me not to like them.
Mike32ct
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I can be a cynic too sometimes, but I still know some good, cool people that I genuinely like.
I'm sure you can find at least one decent person (male or female) in your life that you can chat with. Then you'll start to see the good in people and find it a little easier to connect.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
EyeBRollin
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You have two ears but only one mouth. Use them accordingly.
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ChristopherColumbus
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On the Friday afternoon, you wander into your local Starbucks. You order your coffee, and then find the quiet nerdy corner, where all the loners are sitting reading or studying something on their laptop. Now set up shop mid a couple of beauties. Ignore them. Open up your laptop, and start reading. You must have something to be genuinely engrossed with here in order to take your mind off these lovlies to your left and right.
After half an hour, choose the woman you want to talk to. Move to a closer spot when a seat becomes available. Straight away, as you're setting up, open the conversation... anything, just be nonchalant and relaxed. Talk for say 20 minutes. Get the number. Keep talking for another five minutes. Leave... she has work to do. Text two and a half hours later. A bit of back and forth, and you have the date secured for Sunday [Saturday you will be a little hungover from a few beers at your local bar]. Good luck~~
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zekko
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There's an old saying: "Every man is my superior, in that I may learn something from him". I guess that doesn't sound very "alpha", but it's true.
Everyone knows something that you don't, or has a way about them that you can learn from. If you look at it that way, and try to discover that, it might help increase your interest in other people.