How do I connect with people?

[RichardTheFrog]

How do I connect with people?

 

[Bobbylively]

Stare them in the eyes, be empathetic, and listen.

 

[The Duke]

Find common interests. Listen actively. Get them to open up with what they are passionate about.

 

[RedZone]

Best way is probably to listen to them and ask them questions. So if you meet someone and they say, "My favorite band is Goo Goo Dolls." Instead of replying with "Oh cool." you say "Oh yeah, great band. I just say were playing at XYZ did you catch the show? I heard it was awesome." and go from there

 

[Milfhunter95]

Find common things to talk about, then start asking about them and they'll do the same to you

 

[zekko]

How to Win Friends and Influence People is a good read.
Also, in addition to what other people here have said, if you can take a genuine interest in them, it helps.

Men especially tend to form friendships based on common interests.

 

[Rxnxg]

Welp... I actually have a big problem about that, time ago something happened in my life, I'm not gonna give details about it, and I lost 90% of my friends, the ones that remained are "friends", not the true kind of friends where 1 it's more than enough, but yea... How would you deal with that situation?

 

[Mike32ct]

For starters, you need to like people, at least some of them.

You will never be able to connect with people who sense that you don't like them.

Practice with people you like. You can then project some warmth and/or friendly vibe that they can pick up on.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

For starters, you need to like people, at least some of them.

You will never be able to connect with people who sense that you don't like them.

Practice with people you like. You can then project some warmth and/or friendly vibe that they can pick up on.

Yea I don't like them that much. I've been reading a lot of red pill stuff. It basically tells me not to like them.

 

[Mike32ct]

Yea I don't like them that much. I've been reading a lot of red pill stuff. It basically tells me not to like them.

I can be a cynic too sometimes, but I still know some good, cool people that I genuinely like.

I'm sure you can find at least one decent person (male or female) in your life that you can chat with. Then you'll start to see the good in people and find it a little easier to connect.

 

[EyeBRollin]

You have two ears but only one mouth. Use them accordingly.

 

[devilkingx2]

via USB

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

How do I connect with people?

On the Friday afternoon, you wander into your local Starbucks. You order your coffee, and then find the quiet nerdy corner, where all the loners are sitting reading or studying something on their laptop. Now set up shop mid a couple of beauties. Ignore them. Open up your laptop, and start reading. You must have something to be genuinely engrossed with here in order to take your mind off these lovlies to your left and right.

After half an hour, choose the woman you want to talk to. Move to a closer spot when a seat becomes available. Straight away, as you're setting up, open the conversation... anything, just be nonchalant and relaxed. Talk for say 20 minutes. Get the number. Keep talking for another five minutes. Leave... she has work to do. Text two and a half hours later. A bit of back and forth, and you have the date secured for Sunday [Saturday you will be a little hungover from a few beers at your local bar]. Good luck~~

 

[zekko]

Yea I don't like them that much. I've been reading a lot of red pill stuff. It basically tells me not to like them.

There's an old saying: "Every man is my superior, in that I may learn something from him". I guess that doesn't sound very "alpha", but it's true.

Everyone knows something that you don't, or has a way about them that you can learn from. If you look at it that way, and try to discover that, it might help increase your interest in other people.