RichardTheFrog
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How do I connect with people?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How do I connect with people?
- Thread starter RichardTheFrog
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bobbylively
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Stare them in the eyes, be empathetic, and listen.
Best way is probably to listen to them and ask them questions. So if you meet someone and they say, "My favorite band is Goo Goo Dolls." Instead of replying with "Oh cool." you say "Oh yeah, great band. I just say were playing at XYZ did you catch the show? I heard it was awesome." and go from there
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Find common things to talk about, then start asking about them and they'll do the same to you
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
zekko
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How to Win Friends and Influence People is a good read.
Also, in addition to what other people here have said, if you can take a genuine interest in them, it helps.
Men especially tend to form friendships based on common interests.
Also, in addition to what other people here have said, if you can take a genuine interest in them, it helps.
Men especially tend to form friendships based on common interests.
Rxnxg
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Welp... I actually have a big problem about that, time ago something happened in my life, I'm not gonna give details about it, and I lost 90% of my friends, the ones that remained are "friends", not the true kind of friends where 1 it's more than enough, but yea... How would you deal with that situation?
Mike32ct
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For starters, you need to like people, at least some of them.
You will never be able to connect with people who sense that you don't like them.
Practice with people you like. You can then project some warmth and/or friendly vibe that they can pick up on.
You will never be able to connect with people who sense that you don't like them.
Practice with people you like. You can then project some warmth and/or friendly vibe that they can pick up on.
RichardTheFrog
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Yea I don't like them that much. I've been reading a lot of red pill stuff. It basically tells me not to like them.
Mike32ct
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I can be a cynic too sometimes, but I still know some good, cool people that I genuinely like.
I'm sure you can find at least one decent person (male or female) in your life that you can chat with. Then you'll start to see the good in people and find it a little easier to connect.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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You have two ears but only one mouth. Use them accordingly.
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On the Friday afternoon, you wander into your local Starbucks. You order your coffee, and then find the quiet nerdy corner, where all the loners are sitting reading or studying something on their laptop. Now set up shop mid a couple of beauties. Ignore them. Open up your laptop, and start reading. You must have something to be genuinely engrossed with here in order to take your mind off these lovlies to your left and right.
After half an hour, choose the woman you want to talk to. Move to a closer spot when a seat becomes available. Straight away, as you're setting up, open the conversation... anything, just be nonchalant and relaxed. Talk for say 20 minutes. Get the number. Keep talking for another five minutes. Leave... she has work to do. Text two and a half hours later. A bit of back and forth, and you have the date secured for Sunday [Saturday you will be a little hungover from a few beers at your local bar]. Good luck~~
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zekko
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There's an old saying: "Every man is my superior, in that I may learn something from him". I guess that doesn't sound very "alpha", but it's true.
Everyone knows something that you don't, or has a way about them that you can learn from. If you look at it that way, and try to discover that, it might help increase your interest in other people.