"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do I better convey my personality to girls and overall have more fun with them?

ElStud

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Well earlier today I was talking to this group of girls and no matter what I tried I just couldn't get these girls into me. Like I've gotten interests from groups before but I'm honestly starting to feel that with groups it's a hit or a miss. I tried having fun with them by teasing them, negging them, telling jokes, vibing, but nothing I do seems to get these girls interested and in the end they always seem interested in the lower value guys. Don't get me wrong they might laugh sometimes but then they attempt to blow me out after that. I come in there with a high value attitude and stuff and I go in there not really caring what they think, but in the end they're just not interested. I don't know what it is I'm doing wrong, but it's probably something with how I convey my personality and just the fact that I'm not being fun enough. So how can I improve on conveying my personality and having fun with girls?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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What exactly are you expecting to happen from these interactions?
 

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You might try just thinking about them as if they were people and relate to them that way. It sounds to me like you're just really trying way to hard, making it into some sort of expedition into an alien planet or something.

It's just talk. With other people. Some of whom are female. By chance.
 

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like i said, get their life story, talk to them, get to know them, be genuine, don't just be some clown that they laugh at
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ElStud

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bigjohnson said:
You might try just thinking about them as if they were people and relate to them that way. It sounds to me like you're just really trying way to hard, making it into some sort of expedition into an alien planet or something.

It's just talk. With other people. Some of whom are female. By chance.
Not really, infact I'm not even trying. I'm just doing all this stuff, being myself and these girls aren't interested. And like I said, I've gotten groups interest before but I just can't seem to get interest from particular groups of girls.
 
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