"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How do I better convey my personality to girls and overall have more fun with them?

ElStud

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Well earlier today I was talking to this group of girls and no matter what I tried I just couldn't get these girls into me. Like I've gotten interests from groups before but I'm honestly starting to feel that with groups it's a hit or a miss. I tried having fun with them by teasing them, negging them, telling jokes, vibing, but nothing I do seems to get these girls interested and in the end they always seem interested in the lower value guys. Don't get me wrong they might laugh sometimes but then they attempt to blow me out after that. I come in there with a high value attitude and stuff and I go in there not really caring what they think, but in the end they're just not interested. I don't know what it is I'm doing wrong, but it's probably something with how I convey my personality and just the fact that I'm not being fun enough. So how can I improve on conveying my personality and having fun with girls?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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What exactly are you expecting to happen from these interactions?
 

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You might try just thinking about them as if they were people and relate to them that way. It sounds to me like you're just really trying way to hard, making it into some sort of expedition into an alien planet or something.

It's just talk. With other people. Some of whom are female. By chance.
 

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like i said, get their life story, talk to them, get to know them, be genuine, don't just be some clown that they laugh at
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ElStud

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bigjohnson said:
You might try just thinking about them as if they were people and relate to them that way. It sounds to me like you're just really trying way to hard, making it into some sort of expedition into an alien planet or something.

It's just talk. With other people. Some of whom are female. By chance.
Not really, infact I'm not even trying. I'm just doing all this stuff, being myself and these girls aren't interested. And like I said, I've gotten groups interest before but I just can't seem to get interest from particular groups of girls.
 
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