There is this girl I keep seeing in the parking lot at my college. We usually park close to each other because we go in the same side of the building. She is beautiful but I just don't know how to approach her because I don't know if she has a boyfriend or anything. I don't want to come off as creepy or anything. I'm real shy by the way.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How do i approach a girl in parking lot at college?
- Thread starter adamw5963
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Make sure she's looking in your direction when you start talking. If you try to speak to her while she can't see you, like running up to her from behind, her first reaction will be to jump in startled fear. If you can first exchange eye contact and a smile, then it doesn't really matter what you say.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
^ yes what bible said counts as well.
Dont be a creep and smile
so she knows you are not serious.
Dont get so worked up about it. Is she a perfect being? of course not!!! So why should you worry so much about making a good impression or not. Who the hell cares what she thinks or not at this point... she's just a total stranger. Be yourself and show her how great of a guy you are. If you think you are not that great... well.. then.... you need to improve yourself.
Also.. golden tip... Dont be weird!!! Remember, its only weird if you think its weird; you'll only give her those negative vibes and she'll acknowledge them as weird as well.
Dont be a creep and smile
so she knows you are not serious.Dont get so worked up about it. Is she a perfect being? of course not!!! So why should you worry so much about making a good impression or not. Who the hell cares what she thinks or not at this point... she's just a total stranger. Be yourself and show her how great of a guy you are. If you think you are not that great... well.. then.... you need to improve yourself.
Also.. golden tip... Dont be weird!!! Remember, its only weird if you think its weird; you'll only give her those negative vibes and she'll acknowledge them as weird as well.