Lotus Effect
Master Don Juan
Bump for the newcomers.
Best advice for LTRs, hands down.
To everyone who hasn't read this, do it!
Best advice for LTRs, hands down.
To everyone who hasn't read this, do it!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"How could it have gone wrong??" - The Sh*t Test Everyone Fails
- Thread starter squirrels
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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From the ladies' locker room:
This is a brilliant thread. Happy to see it bumped. You cannot go through life fronting. You have to pick up your gonads and get on with it. Colossus used to discuss the same thing as the ultimate shjt test or some such. He got married & is no longer here...like Atom Smasher and others.
It is a thread about congruence; about character. Cheers.
This is a brilliant thread. Happy to see it bumped. You cannot go through life fronting. You have to pick up your gonads and get on with it. Colossus used to discuss the same thing as the ultimate shjt test or some such. He got married & is no longer here...like Atom Smasher and others.
It is a thread about congruence; about character. Cheers.
Authenticity is what a lot of women are looking for. Women know intuitively that guys will say anything and do anything to sleep with them. A guy’s real character is often only revealed once he has slept with a girl a few times (much to the girl’s chagrin).
It has been said many times that dating is like playing on easy mode. Relationships are like playing on hard mode which is why most don’t last. Many men and women subconsciously relax, become lazy/selfish and reveal their true selves once they’ve gotten what they want (for men s*x, for women commitment). Often one or both parties end up with buyer’s remorse at this point.
It has been said many times that dating is like playing on easy mode. Relationships are like playing on hard mode which is why most don’t last. Many men and women subconsciously relax, become lazy/selfish and reveal their true selves once they’ve gotten what they want (for men s*x, for women commitment). Often one or both parties end up with buyer’s remorse at this point.
Would agree if the woman is over 30.
But if she under 30, you have to lie / cheat / steal until you get her pregnant. Once she delivers a healthy baby, then you can be your true self.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.