Lotus Effect
Master Don Juan
Bump for the newcomers.
Best advice for LTRs, hands down.
To everyone who hasn't read this, do it!
Best advice for LTRs, hands down.
To everyone who hasn't read this, do it!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
"How could it have gone wrong??" - The Sh*t Test Everyone Fails
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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From the ladies' locker room:
This is a brilliant thread. Happy to see it bumped. You cannot go through life fronting. You have to pick up your gonads and get on with it. Colossus used to discuss the same thing as the ultimate shjt test or some such. He got married & is no longer here...like Atom Smasher and others.
It is a thread about congruence; about character. Cheers.
This is a brilliant thread. Happy to see it bumped. You cannot go through life fronting. You have to pick up your gonads and get on with it. Colossus used to discuss the same thing as the ultimate shjt test or some such. He got married & is no longer here...like Atom Smasher and others.
It is a thread about congruence; about character. Cheers.
Authenticity is what a lot of women are looking for. Women know intuitively that guys will say anything and do anything to sleep with them. A guy’s real character is often only revealed once he has slept with a girl a few times (much to the girl’s chagrin).
It has been said many times that dating is like playing on easy mode. Relationships are like playing on hard mode which is why most don’t last. Many men and women subconsciously relax, become lazy/selfish and reveal their true selves once they’ve gotten what they want (for men s*x, for women commitment). Often one or both parties end up with buyer’s remorse at this point.
It has been said many times that dating is like playing on easy mode. Relationships are like playing on hard mode which is why most don’t last. Many men and women subconsciously relax, become lazy/selfish and reveal their true selves once they’ve gotten what they want (for men s*x, for women commitment). Often one or both parties end up with buyer’s remorse at this point.
Would agree if the woman is over 30.
But if she under 30, you have to lie / cheat / steal until you get her pregnant. Once she delivers a healthy baby, then you can be your true self.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.