"How could it have gone wrong??" - The Sh*t Test Everyone Fails

[Lotus Effect]

Bump for the newcomers.

Best advice for LTRs, hands down.

To everyone who hasn't read this, do it!

 

[BeExcellent]

From the ladies' locker room:

This is a brilliant thread. Happy to see it bumped. You cannot go through life fronting. You have to pick up your gonads and get on with it. Colossus used to discuss the same thing as the ultimate shjt test or some such. He got married & is no longer here...like Atom Smasher and others.

It is a thread about congruence; about character. Cheers.

 

[SW15]

The original post from 2007 was very good and it was well written.

The post is still as applicable today as it was in 2007.

 

[DJ Novice]

Authenticity is what a lot of women are looking for. Women know intuitively that guys will say anything and do anything to sleep with them. A guy’s real character is often only revealed once he has slept with a girl a few times (much to the girl’s chagrin).

It has been said many times that dating is like playing on easy mode. Relationships are like playing on hard mode which is why most don’t last. Many men and women subconsciously relax, become lazy/selfish and reveal their true selves once they’ve gotten what they want (for men s*x, for women commitment). Often one or both parties end up with buyer’s remorse at this point.

 

[BadBoy89]

Why do "Naturals" pass the active test?

Naturals pass the active test because they're NOT running a game. They are who they are. They pass the active test the same way they get through the passive tests...by BEING THEMSELVES.

Now this isn't the "be yourself" that involves telling yourself "I love you, me" every morning 10 times in the mirror. This is the "be yourself" where you are NATURALLY confident and powerful.

This kind of NATURAL confidence persists whether you're trying to GET the girl, whether you HAVE her, or whether you NEVER get her. It is being who you believe in your heart that you OUGHT to be.

Would agree if the woman is over 30.

But if she under 30, you have to lie / cheat / steal until you get her pregnant. Once she delivers a healthy baby, then you can be your true self.