"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How could I have played this better?

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Me: Talk shi1.
Her: Haha! Talk sh1t back
Me: Talk more sh1t.
Her: Hahaha! More sh1t talking.
Me: Sh1t talk.. You wanna watch movie X before I have to pay late fees
Her: Yes I do, when's it due back?
Me: funny joke about renting it... How's your schedule tomorrow?
Her: maybe, I'm on call so I'm not sure if I have to work or not.
Her: You have plans Thurs??
Me: On call sounds awesome.. I can switch my Thur plans to tomorrow.
Her: It's easy money, don't do that I'll feel bad.
Me: It's not a big deal... But if you're gonna feel bad we can do it another time.
Her: Well if it's not a big deal then switch it up.
Me: Switchin.. Meet at my place around 7?
Her: See ya then!

Think I supplicated to her by letting her know I was changing plans to kick it...
The plans were just getting a drink with a buddy but thinking I could have played it better. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She doesn't know what your Thursday plans were. Just don't do it too often.

In this case, since she gave you a concrete counter-offer date, I don't see a problem. It wasn't like you just threw out 3 or 4 days and she turned them down.
 
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NO problem there Weezy.

I think that we can over-think and over emphasize the importance of "DJ" talk some times. Believe it or not, her attraction for you is NOT pivoting on your every utterance.
Relax a bit, take a breath .
If you have established your dominance, and the frame is your's, you can slip and slide occasionally.
A woman who has a decent interest in you does NOT have to be gamed in every convo.

Lose the white knuckles, boys.
 
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jophil28 said:
NO problem there Weezy.

I think that we can over-think and over emphasize the importance of "DJ" talk some times. Believe it or not, her attraction for you is NOT pivoting on your every utterance.
Relax a bit, take a breath .
If you have established your dominance, and the frame is your's, you can slip and slide occasionally.
A woman who has a decent interest in you does NOT have to be gamed in every convo.

Lose the white knuckles, boys.
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Many thanks bro. This post helped a lot. Finally got to f close.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

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