How can I tell if I feel love for this girl or only have affection/feelings for her??

[BannedGod]

We haven't been dating for a long time (1week) but I know she already loves me a lot (well that's what she says anyways). Problem is, I don't really love her (I've known her for a week as well, not enough time for me to fall in love with someone) so I'm going to have to tell her that and that I need more time to figure out my feelings for her (yay for honesty; I'm a real honest guy lol)... Now it's clear I have feelings for her, but I doubt it's love, at least not yet. My problem is, how can I see the difference between the two of them?

 

[nvictor]

Don't ask that. You must know.

 

[BannedGod]

Don't ask that. You must know.

Believe me, if I knew, I wouldn't ask, I'd tell her straight away.

 

[Ripper]

Dude, when you love someone you just know. It is wholly subjective. There's no objective criteria you can appeal to. Always remember, if you need to ask then you aren't in love.

 

[BannedGod]

Dude, when you love someone you just know. It is wholly subjective. There's no objective criteria you can appeal to. Always remember, if you need to ask then you aren't in love.

Mmmmh well I know for sure I don't love her yet... I can't love someone I've met and dated for a week... It's just I don't know how I'll know, in time, if I really love her or only have affection for her.

 

[Ripper]

Mmmmh well I know for sure I don't love her yet... I can't love someone I've met and dated for a week... It's just I don't know how I'll know, in time, if I really love her or only have affection for her.

Don't worry about it dude. You'll know in good time. It's one of those things that just hits you from out of the blue; kinda like a huge epiphany (at least in my experience.

 

[Nighthawk]

Would you find her more attractive if she wasn't being so needy?

Could be a test. Of course you can't love her after a week, and if you say you do she thinks you're fake or desperate.

She needs to earn your trust a bit before you talk of love. She'll respect you more for being honest about your doubts, and your value will be higher.

 

[BannedGod]

Would you find her more attractive if she wasn't being so needy?

Could be a test. Of course you can't love her after a week, and if you say you do she thinks you're fake or desperate.

She needs to earn your trust a bit before you talk of love. She'll respect you more for being honest about your doubts, and your value will be higher.

Ok yea that pretty much decided me... But how should I approach this? Should I tell her we should stop dating until I'm sure? Or keep dating and I'll find out in due time?

 

[flexion_]

We haven't been dating for a long time (1week) but I know she already loves me a lot (well that's what she says anyways). Problem is, I don't really love her (I've known her for a week as well, not enough time for me to fall in love with someone) so I'm going to have to tell her that and that I need more time to figure out my feelings for her (yay for honesty; I'm a real honest guy lol)... Now it's clear I have feelings for her, but I doubt it's love, at least not yet. My problem is, how can I see the difference between the two of them?

OH MY GOD. You have known her for 1 week and you are worried about love? Have this dicussion when you are in an exclusive sexual relationship for 3 months.

IGNORE what she is saying. Judge things by what she is actually DOING.
Women love their dogs, cellphones and lipstick after one week too.

 

[Cod3r]

::shakes head::



-Cod3r