"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How can I tell if I feel love for this girl or only have affection/feelings for her??

BannedGod

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We haven't been dating for a long time (1week) but I know she already loves me a lot (well that's what she says anyways). Problem is, I don't really love her (I've known her for a week as well, not enough time for me to fall in love with someone) so I'm going to have to tell her that and that I need more time to figure out my feelings for her (yay for honesty; I'm a real honest guy lol)... Now it's clear I have feelings for her, but I doubt it's love, at least not yet. My problem is, how can I see the difference between the two of them?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ripper

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Dude, when you love someone you just know. It is wholly subjective. There's no objective criteria you can appeal to. Always remember, if you need to ask then you aren't in love.
 

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Ripper said:
Dude, when you love someone you just know. It is wholly subjective. There's no objective criteria you can appeal to. Always remember, if you need to ask then you aren't in love.
Mmmmh well I know for sure I don't love her yet... I can't love someone I've met and dated for a week... It's just I don't know how I'll know, in time, if I really love her or only have affection for her.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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BannedGod said:
Mmmmh well I know for sure I don't love her yet... I can't love someone I've met and dated for a week... It's just I don't know how I'll know, in time, if I really love her or only have affection for her.
Don't worry about it dude. You'll know in good time. It's one of those things that just hits you from out of the blue; kinda like a huge epiphany (at least in my experience.
 

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Would you find her more attractive if she wasn't being so needy?

Could be a test. Of course you can't love her after a week, and if you say you do she thinks you're fake or desperate.

She needs to earn your trust a bit before you talk of love. She'll respect you more for being honest about your doubts, and your value will be higher.
 

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Nighthawk said:
Would you find her more attractive if she wasn't being so needy?

Could be a test. Of course you can't love her after a week, and if you say you do she thinks you're fake or desperate.

She needs to earn your trust a bit before you talk of love. She'll respect you more for being honest about your doubts, and your value will be higher.
Ok yea that pretty much decided me... But how should I approach this? Should I tell her we should stop dating until I'm sure? Or keep dating and I'll find out in due time?
 

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BannedGod said:
We haven't been dating for a long time (1week) but I know she already loves me a lot (well that's what she says anyways). Problem is, I don't really love her (I've known her for a week as well, not enough time for me to fall in love with someone) so I'm going to have to tell her that and that I need more time to figure out my feelings for her (yay for honesty; I'm a real honest guy lol)... Now it's clear I have feelings for her, but I doubt it's love, at least not yet. My problem is, how can I see the difference between the two of them?
OH MY GOD. You have known her for 1 week and you are worried about love? Have this dicussion when you are in an exclusive sexual relationship for 3 months.

IGNORE what she is saying. Judge things by what she is actually DOING.
Women love their dogs, cellphones and lipstick after one week too.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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