PrinceBeavis
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bible_Belt said:You only want her so badly because you can't have her.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
As soon as you think "I don't want get hurt", you are entering into AFC terrority. You have to live your life as best you can and as full as possible and she can come along for the ride if she wishes. If you don't live your life as full as and as best as possible and be happy with who you are and come to terms with yourself, you will start supplicating and become an AFC.Bigtrucker2008 said:My reason for this is that I don't want to get hurt for letting her have my heart. I was hurt long ago, and it made me into a "player". I've gotten with all kinds of various chicks(some at the same time) and they meant nothing to me but another notch in my belt. But now, I don't know what to do, cuz I really like her and she likes me, but I don't want to get hurt.
Bigtrucker2008 said:Ok, this girl and I both really like each other. We don't call ourselves officially "boyfriend and girlfriend", but we do things that couples do (except have sex, which is awkward for me because normally I don't get in situations like this).