PrinceBeavis
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bible_Belt said:You only want her so badly because you can't have her.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
As soon as you think "I don't want get hurt", you are entering into AFC terrority. You have to live your life as best you can and as full as possible and she can come along for the ride if she wishes. If you don't live your life as full as and as best as possible and be happy with who you are and come to terms with yourself, you will start supplicating and become an AFC.Bigtrucker2008 said:My reason for this is that I don't want to get hurt for letting her have my heart. I was hurt long ago, and it made me into a "player". I've gotten with all kinds of various chicks(some at the same time) and they meant nothing to me but another notch in my belt. But now, I don't know what to do, cuz I really like her and she likes me, but I don't want to get hurt.
Bigtrucker2008 said:Ok, this girl and I both really like each other. We don't call ourselves officially "boyfriend and girlfriend", but we do things that couples do (except have sex, which is awkward for me because normally I don't get in situations like this).