Noinfoprovided
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I am shy and not great looking... How do I tell her about my situations... that I can't talk to her... What should I do? ...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How can I date without approaching?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Tictac
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"How can I date without approaching?"
You can't.
So if you want her to have anything to do with you, you have to change your thinking.
You can't.
So if you want her to have anything to do with you, you have to change your thinking.
thelonewolflegend
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What sites or where can i learn this?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
logicallefty
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I agree with Willard, online dating is a great place to start..
The biggest thing is don't go into it with a "I'm going to find my next GF or wife" mentality, or an "I'm going to get laid mentality". Start out with no expectations other than temporary entertainment and learning/growth. Think of each woman as a temporary glass of beer, like this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=221281
The biggest thing is don't go into it with a "I'm going to find my next GF or wife" mentality, or an "I'm going to get laid mentality". Start out with no expectations other than temporary entertainment and learning/growth. Think of each woman as a temporary glass of beer, like this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=221281