Noinfoprovided
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I am shy and not great looking... How do I tell her about my situations... that I can't talk to her... What should I do? ...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How can I date without approaching?
- Thread starter Noinfoprovided
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Tictac
Banned
"How can I date without approaching?"
You can't.
So if you want her to have anything to do with you, you have to change your thinking.
You can't.
So if you want her to have anything to do with you, you have to change your thinking.
thelonewolflegend
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What sites or where can i learn this?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
logicallefty
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I agree with Willard, online dating is a great place to start..
The biggest thing is don't go into it with a "I'm going to find my next GF or wife" mentality, or an "I'm going to get laid mentality". Start out with no expectations other than temporary entertainment and learning/growth. Think of each woman as a temporary glass of beer, like this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=221281
The biggest thing is don't go into it with a "I'm going to find my next GF or wife" mentality, or an "I'm going to get laid mentality". Start out with no expectations other than temporary entertainment and learning/growth. Think of each woman as a temporary glass of beer, like this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=221281