Noinfoprovided
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I am shy and not great looking... How do I tell her about my situations... that I can't talk to her... What should I do? ...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How can I date without approaching?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Tictac
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"How can I date without approaching?"
You can't.
So if you want her to have anything to do with you, you have to change your thinking.
You can't.
So if you want her to have anything to do with you, you have to change your thinking.
thelonewolflegend
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What sites or where can i learn this?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
logicallefty
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I agree with Willard, online dating is a great place to start..
The biggest thing is don't go into it with a "I'm going to find my next GF or wife" mentality, or an "I'm going to get laid mentality". Start out with no expectations other than temporary entertainment and learning/growth. Think of each woman as a temporary glass of beer, like this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=221281
The biggest thing is don't go into it with a "I'm going to find my next GF or wife" mentality, or an "I'm going to get laid mentality". Start out with no expectations other than temporary entertainment and learning/growth. Think of each woman as a temporary glass of beer, like this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=221281