So this chick sends me a message on POF (I havent been on that site for months and I dont have a public picture.) She says I sound cool and we should talk (Im thinkin shes a heffer or a grenade.) I say sure shoot me your # and I'll text you sometime. She says lets exchange pics first. Ok, I sent her some pics but they werent the greatest and I guess she couldnt see my face so well. So she says thats a tease and sends me a nice shot of her posing in her bra with a big smiley face covering her head (supernice body tho). I send her a couple of pics i dug out of me and some chicks. she says I'm hot and likes my cowboy hat and sends me a new pic. Ok this chick is totally hot. I've never really talked with a chick on these sites so I'm not really sure where to go from here. Any suggestions?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Hot chick hit me up on POF. Now I feel AFC
- Thread starter Towerdog
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
the_stig
Senior Don Juan
Just a warning: POF = Flake city. Good luck tho!