PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Say no to Hos and Ho-mos!!!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Blue Phoenix
Master Don Juan
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Interesting
Lo Hung Wang said:
"Another cool thing about gay bars is that you experience what it's like to be female and to be hit on. To be the "object of desire" instead of the pursuer. I know why girls act the way they do - cuz they know guys are lined up to get into their pants."
Once I was in college and a guy I didnt know started to talk to me.
Like this:
Hey, what time is it?
What course do you do?
Where do you live?
Then I said to myself "is this guy hitting on me? WTF?" I sensed he was looking for something. Lucky me that my friend appeared and we left the "strange guy".
Two years later I went to a party and a gay man said to a female "friend" I was with "What a pity he's not gay!!!"
It was really strange! lol. So I ask, what could that mean? If a gay guy hits on you, it's because they think you're gay?
WHat do you think?
Lo Hung Wang said:
"Another cool thing about gay bars is that you experience what it's like to be female and to be hit on. To be the "object of desire" instead of the pursuer. I know why girls act the way they do - cuz they know guys are lined up to get into their pants."
Once I was in college and a guy I didnt know started to talk to me.
Like this:
Hey, what time is it?
What course do you do?
Where do you live?
Then I said to myself "is this guy hitting on me? WTF?" I sensed he was looking for something. Lucky me that my friend appeared and we left the "strange guy".
Two years later I went to a party and a gay man said to a female "friend" I was with "What a pity he's not gay!!!"
It was really strange! lol. So I ask, what could that mean? If a gay guy hits on you, it's because they think you're gay?
WHat do you think?
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PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Re: Interesting
You have become the girl in his sick perverted mind!!
Sorry to be so blunt but he wants to get into your @ss and sees you as a real man sees a woman whom he is ready to devour!!!
You have become the girl in his sick perverted mind!!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Don Juan
I've been hit on (99% sre of it) by guys a couple times as well as girls. The thing is, altho it might be flatering to know that they're intrested in you, it made me feel cheap
. It might be seen as sort of a double standard, but when I girl dose it it just makes u feel like a stud . But with a guy, I don't know its just diffrent, perhaps If I was into that stuff, then I might feel diffrently. From observation tho I realized that guys are alot more agressive which makes the person feel alot more invaded and unwilling to talk to the other party. If they were more smoothe then It might be a little more easy to talk to them so In light of that I took a cue on how women persue men and have become a little less agressive.
. It might be seen as sort of a double standard, but when I girl dose it it just makes u feel like a stud . But with a guy, I don't know its just diffrent, perhaps If I was into that stuff, then I might feel diffrently. From observation tho I realized that guys are alot more agressive which makes the person feel alot more invaded and unwilling to talk to the other party. If they were more smoothe then It might be a little more easy to talk to them so In light of that I took a cue on how women persue men and have become a little less agressive.- Status