backseatjuan
Banned
Wtf is inactive hiv? and can you get infected from it?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hiv
- Thread starter backseatjuan
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
IBreatheSpears
Senior Don Juan
A HIV infection is inactive when there are no viruses circulating in the bodily fluids, but their genetic code is still (and always will be) present in the DNA of some of the person's T-cells. The person isn't contagious and won't develop AIDS, but only while they keep taking their medication.
The risk of HIV transmission by vaginal sex is extremely low - even untreated, it's less than 0.01% - but it's risking a lot, so always wear a condom if you don't know for a fact that the person is clean. Luckily in the developed world, HIV is almost exclusively restricted to gay men and intravenous drug users, and even then, only the minority who are careless (or raped).
The risk of HIV transmission by vaginal sex is extremely low - even untreated, it's less than 0.01% - but it's risking a lot, so always wear a condom if you don't know for a fact that the person is clean. Luckily in the developed world, HIV is almost exclusively restricted to gay men and intravenous drug users, and even then, only the minority who are careless (or raped).
IBreatheSpears
Senior Don Juan
"Pulling out" is effective contraception. The failure rate, assuming you pull out on time, every time, is about 5%, compared to about 3% for condoms.
Then again, the kind of person who would rely on that is probably not the kind of person who can pull out on time, every time. I can, but I still use condoms with people I don't trust because pulling out doesn't protect you against STIs.
Then again, the kind of person who would rely on that is probably not the kind of person who can pull out on time, every time. I can, but I still use condoms with people I don't trust because pulling out doesn't protect you against STIs.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.